Good 🌄 Confused:

You wrote earlier:

“So you mean let them be and pay no attention to them? Rather act on logic/values?”-

I would say: do pay attention to your feelings. Accept them without judgment. Welcome them into your home (your body and mind) without harrassing them with logic and values.

Keep the Logic-Values Guards (LVGs)💂‍♀️ 💂‍♀️ out so that your feelings don’t get harrassed (leading to your feelings getting scared and hiding much of the time).

These guards have a place in the context of what you communicate to other people (through words & actions)

They have no place in context of what you feel internally.

In yet other words, you are not a good person because you feel A and B, and you’re not a bad person for feeling X and Y.

What you feel internally is your private domain. Your business. You don’t owe anyone to feel this or that for them.

Keep the guards 💂‍♀️ 💂‍♂️ out of your private domain. They don’t belong there.

🔮 Anita

Hey Confused: who are they asking to be let out? 🙂

I think 🤔 it’s 3:42 am in Greece 🇬🇷 when you submitted the above. I wonder if you work the night shift and that’s why you’re regularly awake at this time ⏰️

It’s right after 7 pm here.

Does she plan to go back to Greece after Germany? How do you feel about possibly living in Cyprus?

🤔 Anita

I rarely sleep during those times anita, i usually sleep around 05:00-06:00, used to work night shifts so i like the night 🙂

I think she plans going back to cyprus and i would be ok with living there, it’s similar to greece and i’ve been there for a year almost while i was serving.

Do you know about dorsal vagal shutdown by the way?

Good morning, Confused:

About dorsal vagal shutdown in general, and in the simplest language:

When stress feels too big 🔥, the nervous system hits a kind of internal “off switch” to protect you (from a having a dangerously high heart 🫀, for one), and instead of Fight‑or‑Flight (fighting or running), the body goes into Freeze.

It’s not a choice, a personality trait, or laziness — it’s a built‑in biological response.

People describe it as feeling numb, disconnected, checked out, going blank, feeling heavy, slow, or foggy, feeling very tired, low‑energy, having trouble thinking, speaking, or caring about things.

It’s your body telling you: “This is too much for me to process at full intensity, so I’m going to dim the lights.”, or “We’re going to slow everything down, so you don’t break.”

Imagine a car going downhill with failing brakes. Dorsal vagal shutdown is the emergency brake that prevents a crash.

Or imagine a computer that’s overheating. Instead of letting the system fry itself, it goes into safe mode. Dorsal vagal shutdown is your nervous system’s version of safe mode.

It’s not ideal, but it’s protective.

It’s possible that you grew up shut- downed in this way (that’s why you remember so little about the time you were younger than 17), you then recovered somewhat but in Nov last year the early shutdown was reactivated. Maybe you are feeling now like you used to feel when you were a kid.

* I grew up heavily shut down, spaced out, hardly aware of the outside world (not seeing 😶‍🌫️ or hearing 🔇 what’s in front of me, not understanding what people were saying, etc., my brain filtering out most input), but sometimes, normal noises felt unbearably loud 🔊, light felt too intense, smells felt unbearable, certain clothing felt unbearably uncomfortable..

My brain was filtering out most input, but the input that broke through felt too strong.

It’s like having the volume turned down to 2… but every now and then something blasts at 10.

Does this resonate?

🤔 Anita

👋 Confused:

Feeling better now is.. better 🙂

5-10% means 90%-95% yet to go to reach 100% which means ecstatic all the time?

I do hope your sessions with your new therapist will be helpful.

💡🏍🔮 Anita

Hey anita
I think better=calmer so some emotions can still come at times 🙂

Those symptoms were all present but the clothes one was mostly when i was a kid. Now i dont really mind, so it could be a thing of age.

But yeah, the rest were all definitely present and very real. I still don’t like the lights, for example when i visit my father and we sit down to eat, i prefer eating in the dark, lights feel too tiring in a way, i dont know..

I documented many things on the AI today for the appointment tomorrow, but i dont know what kind of therapist i would need to adress all those things. Perhaps it would be a combination of two?