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  • March 16, 2026 at 7:51 pm #456049
    Confused
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    It’s always been the hardest to show compassion to myself, i dont know if u can relate to this anita
    I think that’s something i have to learn, how to be warm and a rock 🙂

    Pasta didn’t turn out very good but i will still enjoy it and go to bed after!

    Have a good night anita, thank you for your answers 🙂

    March 16, 2026 at 8:00 pm #456050
    anita
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    I hope 🙏 that you have a good night.

    Yes, I can relate to it being hard to show compassion for myself. I’m quite new at it, but old enough at it to know it’s totally worth it!

    I wish 🤞 for a warm Confused, and a rock Confused (WCRC)

    🪨 🍜 👍 🤍 Anita

    March 17, 2026 at 3:08 pm #456071
    Confused
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    Hey anita

    Sleep was ok, waking up feels bad most of the days tho 🙁

    Today the doubts/thoughts came rushing back in. It’s funny cause 2 days ago i was “melting” while looking at her haha. Perhaps i need constant connection or the thoughts come back? I am gonna book an appointment with a new therapist specializing in OCD and CBT 🙂

    March 17, 2026 at 6:08 pm #456077
    anita
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    Hey Dear Confused:

    “Perhaps I need constant connection”- a LDR can be difficult for anyone, and something a lot of people won’t go for. It places an extra emotionsl burden on people.

    What are your thoughts about the LD part?

    A new therapist.. is that someone you’d 👀 in person or online (LD)?

    March 17, 2026 at 7:17 pm #456078
    Confused
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    It’s hard yeah, i’ve never done it so i might have to adapt to it. I think my main issue is not fulfilling myself, basing too much of my happiness on my partner.

    I wanna try to see how it goes with this one 🙂

    A new one in person, tomorrow.

    March 17, 2026 at 7:45 pm #456080
    anita
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    Hey 👋 Confused:

    In-person is good.

    I read that a LD relationship is difficult for anyone, particularly a person with an anxious attachment style (a very common style).

    Overall, seems like this LDR is not working out for you. I just wish 🤞 you experience clarity and peace of mind soon, as soon as possible.

    Prioritize your mental- emotional well- being above anything and anyone.

    🙏 Anita

    March 17, 2026 at 7:53 pm #456081
    Confused
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    It’s difficult yeah but idk if anxious attachment is my issue now, more like the OCD.

    Why do u say that it’s not working? I believe i haven’t found the balance yet, i gotta focus more on myself yeah.

    March 17, 2026 at 8:10 pm #456082
    anita
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    Well, I say the LDR is not working because you’re so miserable.

    March 17, 2026 at 8:14 pm #456083
    Confused
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    But i wasn’t until i woke up like this in november, it was a sudden shift, not a slow change. So i wanna work on that and the reason behind it instead of quitting

    March 17, 2026 at 8:25 pm #456086
    anita
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    Well, Confused, you are invested in this LDR, you are persistent, loyal.. and you’re suffering since Nov- 4 months of suffering.

    March 17, 2026 at 8:34 pm #456088
    Confused
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    I think all this suffering is in my head and shows the work i have to do, regardless of the LDR. Because if i imagine ending things, my mind instantly switches to “what if it was a mistake” and ruminating will start. And i know i’ll miss her. It’s not like it’s holding me from pursuing someone else i want. Perhaps this is a good situation to practice choice over infatuation.

    March 17, 2026 at 8:41 pm #456089
    anita
    Participant

    “All this suffering in my head” is still you suffering.

    Why is it that you no longer suffering be a top priority?

    March 17, 2026 at 8:43 pm #456090
    anita
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    * should be a top priority? I don’t want you to suffer.

    March 17, 2026 at 8:48 pm #456091
    Confused
    Participant

    Thank you anita 🙂

    Well, i think this relationship isn’t the cause of my suffering because it used to be a great joy for a year, i can still be present in the moment and enjoy it sometimes. She is very loving, understanding and overall not toxic at all, so it’s not that. I think i have to work with myself and what causes this suffering, definitely my overthinking.

    March 17, 2026 at 9:05 pm #456093
    anita
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    I’ll b Back 2 u Wed morn (Tues night here) 🌙

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