Hey 👋 Confused:

From my experience it’ reversible.

You say ruminating “has definitely been harmful” for you. I’d like to know how you believe it harmed you, in what ways?

🤔 Anita

Hey anita

I mean the damage done to my mind (feelings), is that reversible i wonder?

I was never someone to ruminate a lot, just this time.

* Confused..

Hey 🙂 Confused:

I went over what you were asking yesterday and today. You’re asking whether the love you felt for this person can come back, or whether you have lost access to those feelings forever. You are worried that something inside you has shut down and won’t turn back on, and it makes sense that you’d worry about that emptiness feeling permanent.

About anhedonia — it basically means not being able to feel pleasure or joy from things that normally feel good. But here’s the thing: in my own life, I was depressed from such an early age that I didn’t really have a “normal” baseline of feeling good. There wasn’t a clear “before” for me.

What you’ve been describing, Confused — the numbness, the emptiness, the sense that your romantic feelings disappeared — that doesn’t mean anything is permanently damaged. Feelings can go quiet when the mind is overwhelmed, stressed, grieving, or stuck in loops. They can go dormant. They can hide. But that’s not the same as being gone forever.

Your mind isn’t broken. You’re not permanently shut down. You’re going through something painful, and your system is protecting itself the only way it knows how. That’s reversible. People come back to themselves all the time, even after long periods of numbness.

And the fact that you’re asking these questions — that you’re noticing the difference between then and now — that already shows movement. It means you’re still connected to the part of you that cares, even if it feels far away right now.

You’re not stuck in this state forever. You’re just in a hard chapter, not the whole story 🙂

✨ 🌈 💫 🌟 🤍 Anita

You are welcome 😊 Confused:

Our memories are so lacking, aren’t they? Most people remember the past as better than it was.

“I really wonder where it all started,” you wrote.

Perhaps it started in the parts of our childhoods that we forgot (the parts that didn’t forget us 😉)

What time ⏲️ is it in Greece (4:05 am?). It’s 7:05 pm here)

⏲️🌎 Anita

Yes it all seems like everything went by so fast, i cant recall much before adolescence.. Therapist said how i describe my violent and not so normal childhood like i am reading a newspaper is not normal..

It’s 06 am now here in greece and im going to sleep

I will try to smile tomorrow anita, goodnight 🙂

Hey anita

Yes everything feels far away and part of another life. I guess this is what’s happened to my experiences.

It’s weird isn’t it? I remember the therapist asking me “tell me about your life” and i started telling her about after my 17 and forward. She noticed and asked me, “why don’t u start earlier?” I didn’t know why to be honest, haha. Maybe the feelings were removed from those memories..

I know but it still feels not right to be like this 🙁

Must have been me scrolling down…