Yes, I agree, it is for the best.

About figuring things out, it’d take you placing no pressure on yourself to figure things out.

To remove the stress 😩 that fuels ⛽️ the confusion and overthinking.

And remember that the loving thing to do-for her sake- is to give her space at this time, for as long as you are Confused.

🤍 Anita

To find the color within.. the image that came to my mind first was for you to paint using color (art), but you said that wouldn’t do it for you (something like that). Then I thought of you writing a poem, but I think you didn’t respond to that idea receptively either. So, next, I had an image of you in my mind digging in wet dirt as in preparing to plant something in the ground.

I imagined your hands in the wet, cold mud and you feeling connection to the ground, maybe feeling cold air (if it’s cold where you are) on your face.

The idea is to undo the isolation within, as in being an overthinking, isolated entity and CONNECT with the outside.

? Anita

Hey Confused:

I want to elaborate on the above two messages in general terms: in psychological research, RUMNATION means getting stuck in repetitive, looping thoughts — often about a relationship, a mistake, or a fear. It’s replaying conversations, imagining worst‑case scenarios, trying to “solve” feelings by thinking harder and feeling unable to stop the mental loop.

This style of thinking is strongly associated with feeling depressed, anxious, and hopeless over time. It’s not the topic of the rumination that causes the emotional pain — it’s the looping, the “thinking about the thinking,” that keeps the mood low.

The more you struggle inside the rumination, the deeper it pulls you. Interrupting it isn’t about “thinking harder,” it’s about shifting modes. Grounding techniques help because they shift the brain out of “thinking mode” and into “experiencing mode.”

There’s a general psychological idea that when someone is stuck in rumination, bringing attention back to the present moment (experiencing mode) — through sight 👀 🌈, sound 👂🎵, touch ✋🧸, movement🚶🌀 — can interrupt the mental loop.

Common sensory grounding approaches include * Seeing- naming five things you can see, noticing colors, shapes, shadows, looking out a window and observing movement.
* Hearing- listening to sounds, noticing the rhythm of your breath.
* Touching- holding something textured (fabric, stone, warm mug), feeling your feet on the floor, running your hands under warm or cool water
* Movement- stretching, walking, yoga, Tai Chi, slow, deliberate breathing, and more.

How are you feeling today, Confused?

🤍 Anita

I am not good with arts (poems-painting) but what u said reminded me of my childhood when i was doing stuff with nature. Planting-cutting grass-watering it, it was very grounding and calming indeed, i might have to do that again. Its kinda cold here now (0 and below some days) but its sunny so i can do that too.

Thats what ive been doing for the past 2.5 months.. Ive seen the thing with the senses that u are talking about, but always was too lazy to try it haha. Gonna definitely try it when i get stuck in ruminating again. Im trying to focus on things i see and hear outside mostly but it doesnt rly help

Alright i will try that when the rumination gets strong. But i dont know why it happens

Its probably because of the girl that i feel guilty about and i dont wanna lose like this 🙁

Lose a feeling you once had? You already lost that euphoric, “in love” feeling, right?

So, what is there still to lose?