Thank you for your time, its really appreciated.

Some background: The person this post is about is someone I had known for 10 years, developing  a very respectful and great friendship. He had always pursued me and about 8 months ago, I gave him a shot. Reasons for such a long pursuit were that he had a young child (Yes, out of wedlock) and the fact he was religious, going to church every Sunday, all that (contradicting, you bet) . Even though he knew we came from different backgrounds, I am guessing he figured I would be open to eventually changing my entire identity (converting to Christianity) for him.

Currently: So, about two days ago, I ended things. The unfortunate thing… we were great together. I’ve never been treated so well, we had great chemistry, we were healthy for each other and provided a positive sense of energy to each others lives. He wasn’t necessarily a closed off Christian, I mean he listened to music other than gospel or Christian music, he obviously had a kid out of wedlock and he had no issue being sexually active while he was single and while he was in a relationship with me (but hes “religious”). Anyways, he told me he could not marry someone unless they were saved (this essentially meant that I had to believe Jesus died for out sins), but I immediately called him out and asked him how do you expect someone to be saved and explore this sort of relationship with God, when you aren’t even setting a good example (considering that whole child and having sex thing). He agreed, but that didn’t change much. So because I knew he was a great catch, I said I would explore a relationship (side-note: I believe in God, just was not raised in church) and began attending church on Sundays and being supportive. However, it was still something I felt I was doing for him, not myself. Well the other day I told that if we were to get married, I would prefer to live with him beforehand because 1) its logical considering he has a kid and I would like to know what that’s like before I am legally bound to him and 2) I think its really smart to do because living with someone is a completely different experience. Well, he said his faith doesn’t allow that. Yet, his faith doesn’t allow sex before marriage but you are surely active… so what’s your point? Long story short, I told him that it seems in order for us to be together for the long haul, I would have to do all the bending. I would have to meet him, without an inch of movement on his end.

Does anyone see ANY possibility of this working out, other than the obvious (me converting)? I guess I just feel like there is no hope, but sometimes people have more more experience and wisdom, so I am reaching out.