Dear Anita,

I agree with all you say above.

I agree that I will no longer let my sister mistreat me. In future, I will simply turn my back on her and walk out if she starts putting me down. yes, I’m ok with an inheritance being depleted, because it isn’t an inheritance until you receive it.

So I will take your very good advice and see what happens.

I thank you for all your help in working through all this with me. I will keep you updated if anything happens to change my decision not to interfere.

It’s a compromise, but it’s one that I can work with. 🙂

Dear Anita,

Thank you for all your advice. It’s been hard to work through this one and I appreciate all the time and thought that has gone into your posts to me.

I will certainly try to help others as I have been helped myself.

Jay 🙂

Dear Anita,

Thank you for your kind words. 🙂

My sister mentioned ‘our inheritance’ yesterday. I simply said, ‘we’ll have to wait and see what happens.’ and refused to get drawn into a stressful conversation. It worked. I didn’t get stressed, and she was denied the chance to wind me up.

I’m going for a holiday next week. I intend to just be quiet, walk the dog beside the sea, and generally detach myself and de-stress. 🙂