Dear Baraan:

First thing to do is to stop calling yourself a disgrace and other put downs.

Second thing to do, if you haven’t, is to be tested for Covid-19 because you are experiencing fever, and otherwise see a doctor and take care of your health.

Third thing to do is to apologize to any person toward whom you directed your pandemic related anxiety, anger and distress. People who you offended are likely to understand the pandemic and quarantine related anxiety, because they suffer from it to, and therefore they are likely to forgive you.

Fourth thing to do, is to consider the temporary use of anti anxiety medication, if you are desperate.

Fifth thing, check a website called headspace. com. It has many guided meditations and mindfulness exercises that can help you to relax.

Here is from www. cdc. gov/ coronavirus/ 2019- ncov/ daily-life-coping/ managing-stress-anxiety. html: “Ways to cope with stress:

-Take breaks from watching, reading, or listening to news stories, including social media. Hearing about the pandemic repeatedly can be upsetting.

– Take care of your body. Take deep breaths, stretch, or meditate.Try to eat healthy, well balanced meals. Exercise regularly, get plenty of sleep. Avoid alcohol and drug. Make time to unwind. Try to do some other activities you enjoy. Connect with others.”

You are welcome to connect here with me, and with other members who may reply to you. Post here again.

anita

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by .

Hi Baraan,

The first rule I give myself is to take it easy on myself when I am sick. You have a fever. Your are sick. Be all, “All self putdowns are put on hold until I am well.” Your inner critic will start yelling and screaming at this. Tough. You are sick. Physical wellness trumps dealing with pesky emotions.

I’ve noticed that everyone’s “Stuff” is coming up now because of the pandemic. Thus, the angry letter you received. Send the letter back to the person with “There is no reason to write to me that way, you can be respectful to me.” This person may spit and snarl and write you another angry letter. Just keep sending it back with the same response. Yes, even if you were horrible.

When you are better, you can surely travel to see your family.

As for the academia, blame your illness for your rude behavior, then LET IT GO. The school year is almost over (unless you are in a graduate/PHD scene). Write and little and read a little every day. “Put something in the bank” every day.

Feel Better,

Inky