Dear Preston10:

I re-read your previous thread and you were reasonable and made good sense throughout that thread as well as in this one. He lashed out at you, verbally mistreated you as his way to vent  out his frustrations that were not caused by you. This is what abuse is about, lashing out at an innocent party.

Let’s say he had a problem with his father, but was too scared to assert himself with his father, so what he did instead was to get aggressive with you for sending him a stuffed bear in the mail with a loving sentiment.

We are all disappointed (the title  of this thread) with this behavior, when it is directed at us, and if and when we do it to others.

A very important part of getting to know another person, especially a person with whom you are considering a future, is to learn how he behaves when he is distressed. Calm, most people behave well, but distressed is the time to notice:  does the person turn aggressive/ abusive or does he (or she) contains their distress, not inflicting it on another.

anita

Hi Preston10,

You have to do a Jedi mind trick with yourself now. Reframe it: He blocked you before you could dump him. YES, you had every reason to dump him. He was expecting it because he knew he was being such a jerk. He was just being Proactively Defensive.

Don’t be surprised if he unblocks you and even contacts you later.

Please be strong if this happens. Don’t respond. You have to teach people how to treat you. No more allowing disrespect!

Best,

Inky