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July 24, 2018 at 12:34 am #218459
HayleyParticipantHi all,
So I’ve just gotten my intro job to my dream job and I am out of training and in the real world now. I am doing blood collections and hope to move up the ladder eventually. I’ve been in retail 10 years so nothing was ever quite as intimate at or in direct line with someone’s health as the job I’m in now. However now I am out on my own I’m finding myself flailing, in collections we only get 2 attempts on a patient and then they need to be sent away to come back a day later. I feel like I am sending too many people away and to make things worse I’m so deathly afraid of complaints, or bad reviews because that’s when I usually decide to be a quitter and it eats me up til I become an anxious mess. I’m so down on myself for causing pain to someone and making them leave their Ouse to come see me in order to not even get the job done correctly. I’ve spoken to people and I am more prepared for tomorrow and feel like I know where I’m going wrong and how to correct myself, but there will always be off days or patients who have difficult veins and I just want to know how you deal with off days? How do you deal with negative feedback without crawling into a hole and hibernating for weeks? What’s your way of dealing with the anxiety of a ‘possible’ bad outcome in the future from something you did in the past? Thank you all! So much love and appreciation for this community.
July 24, 2018 at 1:32 am #218467
PrashParticipantHi Hayley,
Congrats on getting your dream job. I am sure you will progress well in your job with your refreshing attitude of learning and more so your sensitive and empathetic nature. Wish you the very best.
how you deal with off days?
Off days are generally days of learning for me. When I try to understand where I have gone wrong and learn from what I did wrong, I know I am progressing. Factors outside of me I try not to get overwhelmed by it and focus on applying my abilities in the best way I can.
How do you deal with negative feedback
Negative feedback can definitely be discouraging and at times I do go hard on myself when I receive it. But again I try and make it into a learning exercise as to how I can do better. I generally find it better to keep being involved but I also let go when things are beyond my control.
What’s your way of dealing with the anxiety of a ‘possible’ bad outcome in the future from something you did in the past?
Acceptance and understanding that the past cannot be undone. The future is something that I can influence more so if I utilize my energies focusing on solutions rather than on regret over what has already happened.
Thank you for your questions, Hayley. Helped me clear some muddle in my own mind too.
Specifically for your job, establishing a rapport with the patient prior to the procedure would go a long way in helping you with the procedure itself. Don’t let complaints or bad reviews get in the way of your dreams; I am certain the appreciations and positive reviews will be much more.
Take care
July 24, 2018 at 1:33 am #218469
AnonymousGuestDear Hayle:
I am one of those people with the difficult veins you mentioned. My very last blood collection was a miserable experience that ended with what was the very beginning of a panic attack. It followed a few of those attempts by a trainee who was at first not supervised. Only after his supervision arrived was the collection eventually successful.
Here is my suggestion, what if you turn your anxiety regarding collection into building a specialty, your specialty: collecting blood from people with those difficult veins. What if this will be your interest, to be the best at it, at the very thing you are afraid of doing.
I’ll compare it to this: let’s say a person is afraid of heights but decides to not avoid heights but to pursue it, as in rock climbing, make it one’s specialty, learn the ins and out of rock climbing, take the time, the effort, and learn all there is to learn about rock climbing and be the best at it.
What do you think?
anita
July 24, 2018 at 2:23 am #218477HayleyParticipantThank you so much Prash and Anita! Your words of encouragement and understanding I think was exactly what I needed, instead of listening to the negative words in my head. Anita I am so sorry you’ve been through what you’ve been through, I am gentle with tests because Ive had terrible experiences myself! Which is why I try so hard to be gentle. But I love your idea of making it my specialty! Too many people in the industry are jaded because of difficult veins instead of using it to become better. Thank you.
Prash – your take on my control over the future has really helped me think about these regrets in a new light. I’m going to smash it tomorrow because what’s done is done, and I can control tomorrow with what I learnt today.
I really need to learn to have these sort of kind voices in my own head!
July 24, 2018 at 2:37 am #218481AnonymousGuestYou are very welcome, Hayley and thank you for your empathy, your empathy for me and for the rest of the … difficult vein community, for being gentle with us.
anita
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