Dear Mina:

“They say no to gardening, tailoring, studying, job“- your parents are wrong for saying No to these things! You wrote that your mother did not allow you to go for a walk on the nature walk. Do your parents stop you from any and all kinds of physical exercise? Are you supposed to stay inside the home all day and do nothing at all?

“Then my mom suggests getting married again“- and again, she is wrong for suggesting this. Why do you think she’s suggesting this, what is her motivation?

“Doctor says schizophrenia another one said depression. They are recommended by my mother relative“- I think that you should see a competent, reputable psychiatrist- without your parents’ knowledge, a psychiatrist that has no connection to your family, and seek a correct diagnosis, whatever it may be.

“My husband..  used to ask me for money and his mother I’ll treated me“- I didn’t understand this sentence: did his mother treat you…?

One more thing, you mentioned earlier that you worked and spent the money you earned on your mother. Is working and earning money still a possibility for you?

anita

Dear Mina:

Your fighting will be worth it if you fight smart. Your situation reminds me of the title of a movie: “Living with the Enemy”. I identified with the title at the time because I used to live with my own personal enemy: my mother. It is difficult to think of one’s own mother as an enemy, but in practice- this is exactly what my mother has been to me.

And so, when I say that your fighting will be worth it if you fight smart, I mean that the first part of your fighting has to be to find a way to live far aware from your personal enemy: the woman who mocks you and who is making and keeping you sick. Once you find that way, you need to never go back to her again. And because your parents support each other in the ways they treat you (notice the title of this thread, “Bad parents“), you will need to have no contact with the two of them.

If, on the other hand, you fight for yourself but stay living-with-the-enemy, then.. your fighting will be useless, wouldn’t it?

anita

Dear Mina:

I Will be able to read and reply to you Thurs morning (in about 11 hours from now). Please feel comfortable to post as many times as you want before I return to your thread.

anita