Dear Mina:

“Yes. Every time it’s my fault… What do you think my mom wants?“- I am guessing that like my mother, your mother wants to feel that nothing is her fault and that everything is someone else’s fault. To feel guilty feels badly, so she doesn’t want to feel it. She doesn’t care that you feel pain, as long as she doesn’t feel guilty. Do you think that this is the case with your mother?

“In one of the office a person used to Leer at me. My mother kept quiet. She said I’m I imagining. But why?“- I am guessing (and you can tell me if it’s true) that when something happens in your life that she doesn’t like, she simply says it didn’t really happen, that you were only imagining it.

anita

Dear Mina:

Is there anyone in real-life who can help you, anyone who can be on your side (not on your mother’s side- but your side), and help you, Mina? (I will soon be away from the computer for the next 10 hours or so).

anita

Dear Mina:

To answer your question I need to understand it better. If you walk on the nature walk in your city, how will people cheat you, according to your mother; in what way will they cheat you (steal from you, rob you… what?)

anita

Dear Mina:

At 40 years old, you should not be told what to wear by your mother. What kinds of clothes do you like to wear?

anita

Hi Mina

Your mom is bullying you and this is wrong. If your mom says something the opposite is more likely to be true.

You deserve peace, happiness and to be treat kindly.

Dear Mina:

I feel sad that your mother said that you are stupid, very sad. I wonder if she told you this since you were a child, did she?

I wish you didn’t live with your parents. I wish that your mother did not tell you what to wear, where to take a walk, whether to apply for a job or not, or whether to join a class, or take on a hobby at home.. I wish all these were your decisions, not your mother’s or your father’s.

anita