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October 23, 2022 at 2:29 pm #408949
lindseyParticipantDear Anita,
How is the Cooper status?
The interviewer never came onto the line for the interview- I waited on hold for 20 minutes. I have not heard back. Maybe that is a sign the company is not all that great- I’ve never had a company do that.
Things have been a little difficult this past week. I received a certified letter from Jon’s attorney stating that I was harassing his fiance Amy and that my “paranoia” she was pretending to be Jon and write texts & emails was not true. I was really upset when I opened it that evening- this was Wednesday. I called my attorney the next morning and she wrote the attorney an email requesting him to not send me any letters directly as she was still representing me in the matter. She also brought up the fact that he went up to me intoxicated at a college baseball game around March of this year attempting to discuss the case- she requested for him not approach or harass me again as I was very uncomfortable.
I had to start using the Family Wizard App again because it is court ordered and requested in the attorney’s letter. I stopped using it in an attempt to stop Amy from communicating but it didn’t work- I was grasping at straws. Per my attorney I wrote in the wizard 2 things in the last month he did that was not following the parenting agreement. I could send a complaint email to the attorney board (I can’t remember their exact name) regarding the attorney’s behavior approaching me but I do not want to add fuel to the fire.
Things continue to be steady and positive with Jason.
Lindsey
October 23, 2022 at 6:34 pm #408955
AnonymousGuestDear Lindsey:fear
I saw him a few days ago near the driveway with a relative older beagle of his, I called his name (Kooper with a K, mind you), he ran to me and I petted him, but then the son of his owners drove his truck, told Kooper to go home, in a harsh tone, Kooper yelped and ran home, scared. I was sad. I want to read the rest of your post and reply Mon morning, good night, Lindsey, good to read back from you!
anita
October 23, 2022 at 6:35 pm #408956AnonymousGuestOoops, the word “fear” doesn’t belong by your name (I am tired, that’s why it happened)
October 24, 2022 at 9:16 am #408974AnonymousGuestDear Lindsey:
I can imagine how upsetting it was for you to open that certified letter Wed evening! You did right to call your attorney Thurs morning. How she responded reads perfect to me. I hope that you follow her suggestions to the tee, including using the Family Wizard App to record all that you need to record (per your attorney’s/ court’s instructions). Wow… I wish there was way less drama for you on that front. Good to read that on the Jason front, things continue to be steady and positive!
anita
November 4, 2022 at 8:03 am #409534lindseyParticipantDear Anita,
How is Kooper and how are things? I did not like hearing about how the son spoke to him!
Lindsey
November 4, 2022 at 8:14 am #409536AnonymousGuestDear Lindsey:
Thank you! I forgot to add to the story of my last encounter with Kooper that after our affectionate exchange in the driveway, I walked toward the house while he was walking beside me, expecting treats and time spent inside… and that’s when the neighbor’s son screamed at him… Kooper responded very fearfully. Broke my heart. Didn’t see him since. If it wasn’t for the responsibilities involved, I would have gotten my own beagle puppy… but even then, I would still want Kooper around. How is everything with you?
anita
November 4, 2022 at 11:09 am #409544lindseyParticipantDear Anita,
I’m not sure how friendly you are with your neighbors but maybe ask if you could dog sit Kooper if they leave on occasion?
Things are going well. Jason and I went to Chicago last weekend- lots of good food!
I am taking on more responsibilities with the kids- Amy has forgotten jackets and water bottles- the jackets were important last week- it was 45 degrees out and they were outside playing until pick up at 4. Aiden said he was freezing. I think she is being passive aggressive with me- she takes it out on my ex and he takes it out on me- Using the Family Wizard app after the letter from his attorney have improved things for me- I document for the future.
Lindsey
November 4, 2022 at 11:25 am #409546AnonymousGuestDear Lindsey:
I sent the neighbors an email a while ago regarding being more than fine with having Kooper over and asking her if it’s okay with them.. but no reply. Good to read that you had fun in Chicago with Jason and that the Family Wizard app is helping: keep documenting Amy’s and ex’s misbehavior, what a shame that they won’t behave themselves! Almost weekend, raining cats and dogs here and my hip is hurting a lot. I am doing ice and heat and took anti-inflammatory, no walking or working for me today. I hope that you have a very good weekend!
anita
November 4, 2022 at 11:47 am #409547lindseyParticipantDear Anita,
Sounds like Kooper will most likely be back to your house on his own- they can sense good people. Also his owners sound a bit unfriendly.
I hope your hip is feeling better soon. It is supposed to rain today and tomorrow here.
Still recommending a beagle puppy LOL – you can fly with them in a carrier.
Lindsey
November 4, 2022 at 11:54 am #409548AnonymousGuestDear Lindsey:
Still recommending a beagle puppy… I know. Thing is I neglect to take myself to see a doctor for any reason, how will I deal with having to take a puppy to the vet for vaccinations and all that is needed… yes, it is a shame that the neighbors are not more friendly, maybe it’s about them getting older and their less-friendly adult son taking over their lives… maybe that’s what it is. I can’t wait to not be hurting anymore… I would love to let you know if and when this pain stops. Thank you about the compliment, you are good people too!
anita
November 24, 2022 at 1:22 pm #410670AnonymousGuestHappy Thanksgiving, Lindsey!
anita
November 30, 2022 at 2:14 pm #411021lindseyParticipantDear Anita,
Thank you! Hope you enjoyed Thanksgiving and had a relaxing holiday weekend.
Lindsey
November 30, 2022 at 2:21 pm #411023AnonymousGuestYou are welcome, Lindsey: good to read from you this snow-white (here) Wednesday!
anita
December 24, 2022 at 12:10 pm #412576AnonymousGuestMerry Christmas, Lindsey!
anita
December 25, 2022 at 7:28 am #412618lindseyParticipantMerry Christmas to you Anita!! Hope you enjoy the holidays
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