Dear Tee:

I read your post earlier this morning and reread it now. I agree with everything you said, thank you!

When I read this part earlier: “I too have nice memories from my childhood that involve my mother, but it’s mostly when we were in the company of other adults and their children. That’s when I had a good time, because my mother wasn’t focused on me, so I was free to enjoy my time with those children.”-

I was amazed because I never read or heard anyone express this and I could have written this myself-

The only nice memories from my childhood that involve my mother were when she and I and my sister were guests at aunt Suzi (not the oldest). I was free from her attention, she… wasn’t focused on me.

Maybe a bit in the homes of another, youngest aunt and in the home of uncle Morris (there were many more visits at aunt Susi’s home than anywhere else.

* No nice memories from others visiting our apartment because of her offering food and me getting angry at others supposedly taking advantage of her.

“When I was alone with my mother, I don’t remember too much joy because she would often criticize me, or not be supportive of me, or just in general be unhappy and complain about her ‘sad life’. And so there wasn’t much joy in my interactions with my mother..”-

I could have written this too.. only I’d replace “I don’t remember too much joy” with “I remember lots of misery” 😔

🤍 Anita

Dear Tee:

I said quite a few prayers today. I started praying again only recently in regard to the sale of the winery. I didn’t pray in regard to money, I prayed for a fast sale because of owner’s mental/ physical health affected by the place not being sold for so long although on the market (it’s a buyer market at this time).

I then prayed for my continued healing and for the health of a few people across the world.

And then I found something positive to thank God for: that no one got injured or died as a result of drinking alcohol here (I’d know about it through a lawsuit). To acknowledge this very positive thing made me feel lighter for the first time today. It would be a terrible guilt if that happened.. (relief!)

And then after walking on the premises and around for almost 3 hours, I came back inside, using not my own computer and I read about your new problems with your spine.. and I prayed for your symptoms to ease and for you to experience the most healing that’s possible for you (“and beyond”, I added, beyond the possible, that is).

As I read that you were sitting, answering me while in pain.. I what’s the word, I don’t have the right word.. beyond appreciation. But of course, I wouldn’t want you to experience any pain at all, and none on account of typing a message for me. So, I will not expect long messages like before. A few sentences would be enough, if you’re not in pain for sitting for a few sentences.

Tee: “I hope and pray it’s not wishful thinking, but a real possibility 🤞 🙏”- Anita: I am praying right now: “God, I pray that healing for Tee is a real possibility. and beyond a possibility. I pray for a miracle. In Jesus name, Amen. 🤞 🙏

I am hearing the second owner gathering his stuff (tractors and such, having them towed to his home). I can’t believe that this Friday, I will not be here. Oh, as to your question, there will be no more winery here, it’ll be a horse’s place, horses are an industry.

I have mentioned “the taproom” in posts before- that’s not the winery; it’s a different location 4 miles from here.

Thank you so much Tee for your kind words, your empathy, your passion for the truth (a rare passion).

I may have not responded to everything you wrote, I will later.

Please take care of one of a kind Tee.

🙏 🤍 🫶 ❤️ 🙏 Anita

Dear Tee:

I pray that you are okay and not in pain.

“As for the situation with the taproom owner, have you ever invited him to come visit the winery? Was he promising but never got to actually do it?”-

No to both questions. It bothered me in the past that we were good customers in his business (the taproom, for years) and he never came by to the winery, never a customer.. not even coming by to look at it. But somehow, I suppressed that disappointment and it erupted (the disappointment) yesterday for the first time.. because it’s really closed, no more days with customers and friends. The finality of it hit me yesterday.

About praying, as a child, I prayed to the stars: “Please keep my mother alive”. I had no experience with the Jewish religion other than eating religious holiday foods and- on Saturday mornings- hearing prayers from a synagogue, at a distance.

In my 20s, I came across a born-again Christian in Israel, and the “Jews for Jesus” group in Israel (the 1980s) and later, got together with a born again Christian community in LA- and there, I learned to pray.. “In Jesus Name”. I am not necessarily a Christian, but that’s my only context of praying (other than to the stars).

At this very moment, I am hearing a troubling conversation.. the new owners are greedy and causing problems.. this is a NIGHTMARE! I need a heavy duty tranquilizer.. alcohol is not doing it for me.

Sorry for this negative message. It’s like.. Well, I have to go down there and help move things around..

Please pray for me, Tee.. please do. My anxiety is very elevated, my tics intense.. I am trying to calm myself down…

Please do pray for me.

Anita

Dear Tee:

“Thank you so much for your prayers”- let’s keep praying for each other!

“You said you’ve recently started to pray again, and I see it as good sign, an opening towards something beyond, an opening that was closed due to the hopelessness of your life with your mother? You said you used to pray as a child (sorry, forgot what it was that you prayed for: for your pain to stop, but also for your mother, right?)”-

I prayed for her to not kill herself. I didn’t pray for “my pain” because in my mind she existed, I didn’t; her pain existed big-time.. I didn’t. It was all about her. She was center stage, I was nowhere to be seen.

“but your prayers got unanswered, and so you stopped praying… and stopped believing, I guess?”- It was answered, looking back, in the sense that she remained alive.. (alive to continue to torture me)

“I’m so sorry about the loss of the winery… it seems it’s been operating with a loss for some time, given that you’ve been trying to sell it? I hope the money you got for it is not just a tiny fraction of what was invested”-

Thank you, Tee. The expenses were so huge (including a huge regular pay into insurance in case there’ll be lawsuits, and so many, many other costs), that there was never a profit to reach the few owners of the business.

The new owners have done their best to minimize the tiny fraction.

“but I can imagine it’s a very bad feeling, not just from the financial standpoint, but also because it was something you invested a lot of your hard work and effort, and yet, it couldn’t be sustained 😢”-

My goodness, Tee- I worked so much.. picking apples into huge bins, dropping rotten apples (which were not picked, later in the season) off the many thousand of trees (41 acres), picking corn and squash from the fields where they were grown, weeding, removing the plastic and tubes from the fields after the picking of squash; pruning trees, cutting invasive blackberries and Mullens… washing dishes, drying dishes, cleaning bathroom, dusting, wiping surfaces, sweeping, vacuuming.. moving heavy tables and chairs from here to there many (many!) dozens of times (for events) and so much more, depending on the need, day in and day out.

“But it’s good to hear that you’re not in an immediate danger of losing your home, and that you’re not too worried about it”- I am not. BUT I neglected it big-time, being focused on the winery.. Just got mice traps after horrifying meeting with mice in the last couple of nights.. which added to my anxiety!

“Yes! I hope there’s a plan for the post-winery period, which includes the financial dealings and never becoming homeless! 🤞 🙏”- thank you, Tee. First plan: CLEAN, ORGANIZE, REMOVE the too much stuff laying everywhere.. and mice (if I come across a rat in the house, I’ll be beside-beside-beside myself, scared to death!)

“As for the situation with the taproom owner… I understand your anger and disappointment that people didn’t feel too much empathy, and didn’t bother to pay a visit (except 2 of them) before the winery’s final closing 😕”-

And the people who did show up, quite a few- were looking for freebies, or the lowest cost purchases from a dying/ closing business, like vultures.

“I’m sorry you’re thinking of never going to the taproom again, since that’s the place where you’ve forged some good relationships.. but I understand that if only 2 out of dozens of people there showed interest in the winery’s destiny, that you don’t feel like socializing with them again…

“I’m sorry this has affected you so much.. I guess you’ve been anticipating the sale of the winery for some time, but you haven’t anticipated that people would be so neutral about it, not really empathizing with you, not bothering to come and visit. I guess that’s what really hurts…😕”-

I was in denial of sorts that it was really on sale. I was hoping for a miracle.

“But yeah, try to remain cool-headed in terms of figuring out your next steps and making the best possible decision, considering the circumstances.”- well, I got mice traps… Oh, by the way, found a dead rat at the winery this afternoon, removed it with a broom, threw it in the fields.. couldn’t stop smelling it for a while.. May I not come across a rat here, in the house (scared face emoji).

“Wishing you strength and good fortune in this new chapter 🙏 I know it’s not what you wanted, but there isn’t much you can do about it but to accept it, and try to make the best of it..🙏 🤍 🫶”-

Thank you, Tee. Tomorrow, Thurs., Dec 4.. I will no longer have access to the winery, and the day after, Friday, the day I’ve been there every Fri for 4 years meeting customers.. I won’t be there. This change, this shift is devastating.. but I think I’m adjusting to it tonight. I think I’m starting to relax into this new reality.

🙏 🤍 🫶 Anita