Posts tagged with “wisdom”
Planning Without Panic and Learning to Live in the Now
âYou can plan for a hundred years. But you donât know what will happen the next moment.â ~Tibetan proverb
Some days it feels like a fog I canât shakeâthis underlying fear that something painful or uncertain is just around the corner.
I try to be responsible. I try to prepare, make good choices, take care of things now so the future wonât unravel later. But beneath that effort is something harder to face: I feel helpless. I canât control whatâs coming, and that terrifies me.
Maybe youâve felt this tooâthat tension between doing your best and still fearing itâs not …
How I Broke Free from a Narcissistic Family System
âYour vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.â~ Carl Jung
My mom had always been invested in real estate. I remember snacking on open house charcuterie years before we finally purchased a house to flipâthe first of four. By the time I was eighteen, weâd moved five times.
I knew our family was falling apart by renovation number three.
I had spent the previous few years experiencing suicidal ideation and was now on a strict cocktail of seven or so psychiatric and neurological medications.
My brother …
I Lost My Fatherâand the Illusion of My Mother
âSometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.â ~Eckhart Tolle
In July 2023, my father died in a tragic accident. We were devastatedâmy sisters, my mother, and I. Or so I thought.
What followed in the months after his death forced me to confront the truth of my motherâs emotional disconnection, a truth I had sensed but never fully allowed myself to see. In losing my father, I also lost the illusion of the mother I thought I had.
A Sudden Exit
By September, just two months after my fatherâs death, my …
Left-Side Pain: A Powerful Messenger for My Abandoned Parts
âThe body always leads us home⊠if weâre willing to listen.â
For over a decade, I lived in a body that tried to tell me something I wasnât ready to hear. But eventually, it got louderâloud enough that I could no longer ignore the message.
It started with migrainesâalways on the left side.
Then came a string of sinus infections and dental issuesâagain, always on the left.
Lumps formed in my left breast. Then pain in my left ribs. Then a left-sided numbness that made doctors run MRIs for multiple sclerosis. Every test came back normal. And yet my body …
Raised on Their Best IntentionsâHealed on My Own Terms
âOut of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.â ~Kahlil Gibran
There are two versions of me.
Thereâs the one I am nowâthe grounded, present woman who holds space for others, who guides people toward healing, who walks barefoot through the grass and whispers affirmations while sipping her coffee.
And then thereâs the other version. The one who barely made it. The one who used to stare into her fridge not out of hunger but as a distraction from the ache in her chest. The one who didnât feel at home in her …
The Truth About Why Iâve Ghosted People (and What Iâve Learned)
“Ghosting is cruel because it denies a person the chance to process, to ask questions, or to get closure. Itâs emotional abandonment, masquerading as protection.” ~Dr. Jennice Vilhauer
I never set out to ghost anyone.
In fact, I used to hate ghosting with the burning fury of a thousand unread dating app notifications. I told myself Iâd never be that personâthe one who disappears mid-conversation, fails to reply after a good date (or sends a very bland thank you message), or silently vanishes like a breadcrumb trail to nowhere.
And yet⊠here I am. Writing a post about how Iâve …
How Two Simple Lists Completely Transformed My Life
âHappiness turned to me and said, âIt is time. It is time to forgive yourself for all of the things you did not become… Above all else, it is time to believe, with reckless abandon, that you are worthy of me, for I have been waiting for years.â ~Bianca Sparacino
I didnât know who I was.
That realization hit me like a punch to the chest after I ended a decade-long relationship and canceled my wedding six weeks before it was supposed to happen.
I remember standing in my kitchen one morning, staring at the floor, and thinking, I have …








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