Posts tagged with “emotions”

A Simple Way to Calm Yourself When Feeling Strong Emotions
“This is the root of Self. You are not your thoughts; you are aware of your thoughts. You are not your emotions; you feel your emotions…. You are the conscious being who is aware that you are aware of all these inner and outer things.” ~Michael Singer
I sat across from my colleague with a growing sense of discomfort. I had accepted an assignment from the boss, but I heard from my colleague an undercurrent of questioning and uncertaintyâor so it seemed. It was so subtle that I couldn’t quite tell what was going on.
Did she not believe I …

How to Find Lasting Peace (Even When You’re in an Emotional Tornado)
âYou can find peace amidst the storms that threaten you.â ~Joseph B. Wirthlin
Does your mind ever feel like a tornado of whirling thoughts?
And when that happens, do you wish for inner peace?
Well, not too long ago, after I quit my corporate job, I was stuck in that exact position. I realized that the degrees I earned and the jobs I chose made me miserable.
My inner chatter became unbearable, and my self-sabotaging, pestering thoughts sparked anxiety attacks, jitters, and nightmares. That forced me to go into therapy.
But even after a year of professional help, …

How to Release the Painful Memories and Emotions Stored in Your Body
âThe cure for the pain is in the pain.â ~Rumi
Your body keeps a physical memory of all of your experiences.
You have lots of memories stored in your brain that you can recount at any given moment. You can recall names, faces, where the event took place, what it smelled like. But over time, these memories fade or change as time passes and we mature. However, even when the memory begins to fade from your brain, it lives on in your body in the form of physical sensations and behavior patterns.
The body doesn’t forget.
The events of our …

How to Feel Your Feelings and What That Will Do for Your Life (Everything!)
âYou care so much you feel as though you will bleed to death with the pain of it.â ~JK Rowling
Sometimes the last thing we want to do is feel our feelings. Because feeling can hurt.
Feeling can make you cry in the laundromat.
Feeling can make your face unattractively red in the frozen food aisle.
Feeling can make you think this whole being human racket is not the best way to spend your time.
If youâve been stuffing your feelings back into your rib cage whenever they try to break for the light, this is especially true. I know, …

6 Healthy Ways to Shed Layers of Emotional Pain
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anais Nin
Do you remember a time when you wanted to crawl under the bed and stay forever?
Perhaps youâd been dealing with chronic pain and anxiety, had recently experienced divorce or the loss of a loved one, maybe even lost a job or two. I had experienced all of these things in just a few short years, and, judging by the loud knocking as I hid, was about to have my car repossessed, too.
I …

What’s Really Going on When Someone Seems âToo Sensitiveâ
âFor a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.â ~Cynthia Occelli
The whole time I was growing up, I was told, incessantly, that I was âtoo sensitive.â These words, when I first heard them, came from the mouth of the person I vowed I would never become.
And yet, as I grew up, these words didnât stay within the darkness of my childhood home. They began to roll out of the mouths of kids …

You Donât Need to Fix the Past in Order to Have a New Future
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âThe future is completely open, and we are writing it moment to moment.â ~Pema Chodron
My family recently drove from Michigan to North Carolinaâtwenty hours roundtrip. To entertain themselves, my five-year-old daughter Willow taught my three-year-old son Miller to play rock-paper-scissors in the backseat.
Miller learned the hand signals and got the overall concept pretty quickly, but he had a hard time with the fast speed of the game. Willow narrated, âRock-paper-scissorsâŠgo! Okay, next round!â But Miller wanted to linger.…

5 Emotions We Try to Numb with Food (and How to Stop)
“If music be the food of love, play on.” ~William Shakespeare
This quote holds a very special place in my heart.
Growing up, I was always surrounded by classical music. My grandfather loved the arts, and the first song I ever sang was “Edelweiss” from The Sound of Music.
I remember recognizing what it felt like to have a big voice come out of a tiny body, how powerful and scary that was.
Years passed, along with plenty of practicing and an expanded repertoire, and I found myself going to college to study vocal performance. This was where the …

Inner Peace
Source: Lessons Taught by Life

7 Ways to Make Pain Work for You
âGrief can be the garden of compassion.â ~Rumi
Have you ever had lower back pain? I once wrenched my back and walked at snailâs pace for weeks, crippled by pain. Lower back pain troubled me for years, until I found an exercise that reliably switches off the pain.
Have you ever lost a loved one? The anguish can seem unbearable.
Abolishing pain might seem a good idea, but please pause to consider this story.
I was once the doctor and scientist on a health âmissionâ with a major international organization. Our team included a vivacious and intelligent young lady …

How to Stop Taking on Other Peopleâs Fears and Live Freely
âFear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.â ~Pema Chodron
You wake up in the morning, it is sunny outside, and you are grateful for this brand new day. You are enthusiastic to get it started. You take a deep breath and go outside; then you see some gum in your street.
Will you pick it up and stick it to your T-shirt, or maybe even have a little taste of it? Of course not!
Please excuse the gross opening, but bear with me for a second.
So many of us have done something just like that, …

How Thoughts Can Lead to Emotional Explosions
âStay present. Stay conscious. Be the ever-alert guardian of your inner space.â ~Eckhart Tolle
It was approximately 1:20 pm on a sunny Thursday afternoon, and I was halfway through my presentation at a high school, when I was interrupted by a loud automated female voice blowing through the intercom speakers.
âPlease secure your classroom. Please secure your classroom,â it said.
I was extremely alarmed but mainly confused. I looked at the instructor for direction. His face had turned bright red and it was obvious he was holding back panic. He dashed to the front of the classroom to lock the …

Why We Need to Share Our Honest Feelings
âI learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.â ~Nelson Mandela
She hurt my feelings. She was leaving soon to live in another country for up to six months. I knew that if I held on to my hurt, this resentment would fester, and my best friend would be the recipient of my anger.
I prayed for courage to find the right words. I didnât want to hurt her. I knew I had to say something or …

3 Lessons That Help Me Overcome Anxiety and Depression
âHistory, despite its wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again.â ~Maya Angelou
Iâve suffered from anxiety and recurrent major depression for more than twenty years. Over that time, Iâve learned a number of lessons about living life and dealing with these diseases.
Two equally meaningful and powerful days from that time stand out to me.
My wedding day, fifteen years ago now, was a happy day when I was more confident and sure about what I was doing than any other.
The day that rivals my wedding day in terms of my …

7 Ways to Learn from Your Negative Thoughts
âThe mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.â ~Plutarch
I remember when I first learned about positive thinking. I was to observe my thoughts, then sort them into âusefulâ and ânot useful.â
This made sense to me, and it surprised me how many ânot usefulâ thoughts I encountered. On a daily basis, I was telling myself that I was not good enough, that things could never work out, and that I was on the verge of being fired from my job.
âNot useful, not useful,â my mind kept repeating. And yet the …