Why People-Pleasers Lie and What We Gain When We Share Our Truth
âYouâre a liar. People-pleasers are liars,â a friend said to me. I felt like I was punched in the gut. âYou say yes when you mean no. You say itâs okay when itâs not okay.â My friend challenged me, âIn your gentle way, begin to be more honest.â
I believed the lie that pleasing people would make my relationships better. It didnât.
I decided to take my friendâs challenge to tell the truth. People didnât have a relationship with me; they had a relationship with another version of someone else. They didnât know me.
People-pleasing was safe; it was how …