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    Vinod Mehandru
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    Maria – how big are your teams – number of employees in each team? Since you seem to be first time manager – better read some books of how to delegate and manage teams, train teams, build coherent teams. It should help!

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    Vinod Mehandru
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    Anita and Janeth – I am disappointed the way this discussion is ending. Janeth feels that her comments was misinterpreted while Anita does not feel so! So it needs further discussions / interactions – not abandonment! Go on all interactions help in strengthening our EQ!
    I notice that while Jeneth expressed her feelings well the real reasons the other stake holders do not approve the relationship is not very clear. 100% of conflicts can not be resolved. If the situation can not be improved to a level where it is gladly accepted or has the probability of improving with time – one must either live with the situation (needs great emotional maturity – and apparent or hidden stress) or walk away – as Anita suggests – as a last recourse. Gita – a Holy Book of India makes it clear that absolute truth in any situation is difficult to know – we make a version of it with our mind and thoughts. We take actions based on the interpretation of the apparent truth in our mind and have to be prepared for the consequences of our actions which follow. For every action, evaluate the consequences and prepare yourself to accept them without further emotional stress.
    May God bless bth of you and do continue exchanging your thoughts and be helpful friends – not just friends.

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    Vinod Mehandru
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    What you face is quite common – so don’t worry about it too much. The bright part is that you feel bad about it and want to amend by rendering an apology. This is the beginning. But check in your own heart why do you feel the way you do about your mother in-law? Are these genuine reasons? Are they bigger than your want to make your husband and sons happy? Check what you can do about this way of feeling about them. Unless you FORGIVE them for what you feel they did to you – the apology would be half-truth and not sincere. If you feel you can forgive her – go ahead and apologize – but have determination to not feel the way you feel. Find ways to remain calm and positive. Think of the future when all of you would be great happy family together.
    Talk to your husband and sons. Tell them how you have felt in the past and that you want to change. Seek their suggestions. Your husband would be great support in mediating between you and his mother. Make a determination that you are going to set it right and make your family a HAPPY FAMILY by amending the way your beliefs. Accepting imperfections of others makes life easy to live and stress free too!

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