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  • May 28, 2026 at 11:57 pm in reply to: Confused on How to Deal With This Side of My Boyfriend: Am I overreating? #458237
    Lella
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    The Universe just wanted to tell you through me to be even more kind and gentle and compassionate with yourself, clearly!

    I don’t ever receive emails from tinybuddha.com so this is indeed a tiny miracle. As soon as I saw your message I felt a pang that directed me to say “tell her to forgive herself, remind her of her own divinity and humanity and that it’s okay to be on the path and no one ever gets it done completely, we always keep learning.”

    I’ve been the Universe’s post girl a few other times. For whatever reason this thread has been lit up again, it is certainly for something beneficial at this point in time.

    Maybe it’s for even more people than me and you!

    Maybe someone needs a gentle reminder that tiny miracles exist! ❤️

    Maybe someone needs a gentle reminder that it’s okay to grow and learn and still love yourself through it all. We’re all in the mud figuring it out! 💃

    May 28, 2026 at 9:56 pm in reply to: Confused on How to Deal With This Side of My Boyfriend: Am I overreating? #458235
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    Anita, hi! I just so happened to received and read the email that tinybuddha.com sent me as an update to this thread that I commented on 3 years ago.

    I read some of your comment and Anita I just want to say to forgive yourself. It is not the end of the world and you are not a horrible person, you simply grew up and now can see even more than before and understand even more than before.

    Deserves celebration not flagellation!

    I understand the feeling you’re having, I’ve also had it when I had a few recognitions and realizations of myself or my behavior at various times and it is indeed humbling.

    Let your heart be mended by this humbleness. Forgive yourself!

    There’s been times when others did that same thing with you, life is like this. We just live and learn and when we know better we simply do. And till we don’t, we don’t.

    Love you girl, my fellow human sister!

    Sending much much love your way radiating joy and gentleness!

    May you be gentle and kind to yourself today, tomorrow and always!

    October 6, 2023 at 6:11 am in reply to: Confused on How to Deal With This Side of My Boyfriend: Am I overreating? #422599
    Lella
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    Hi. I literally made this account to comment here because I found all the other replies you got infuriating and encouraging of making you stay in what is clearly an abusive relationship. You’re in a relationship actually with an emotionally unavailable man, even though it seems to be covert. He also seems to be the worst  “nice guy” variety. I find the rest of the comments here very invalidating of your experience.

    Your boyfriend will NEVER listen to you the way YOU do to him and he’ll never take responsibility and actually mean it. The way YOU do. He is the type that is nice, NOT kind. Big huge difference.

    I only got one question. You’re doing all this work to fix yourself and improve the relationship. How much does HE do in the same manner that you do? With the same zest and dedication.

    ialready know the answer for I have read all of your comments. you should leave the relationship, you’ll NEVER be happy with a man like that.

    I’m sure that will be a process, not an overnight thing but you need to start reading about emotional unavailability and if you really want to open your eyes to his type, watch this video:

    (Teal Swan – How Nice Guys Kill)

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