He insists that he must see other women and suffers from Madonna-Whore Syndrome?? Laugh in his face and walk out, sister!

When he’s visiting his parents does he bring multiple women over? No.

When he talks to his boss does he politely excuse himself to deal with his “syndrome”? No.

If he was on Dr. Phil on national TV, would he convince the Dr.? No, and the audience would laugh at him.

Because, like celebrities suffering from “sex addiction”, it is a made up, fake, convenient disorder.

In the 60’s there was Free Love. In the 70’s “If you’re jealous, YOU’RE the one with the problem”. In the 80’s, AIDs, so that was the end of that. 90’s would be a Seinfeld episode if guys tried that nonsense. 2000s “Sex Addiction”. 2010 Madonna-Whore Syndrome???

Goona,

I swear to God, on 100 Holy texts, it gets better.

Jesus, four kids!! You are actually doing The Right Thing by being a SAHM, by being Present.

A Secret no one will Admit: Kids are a pain in the azz. They just are. Please believe the cliché that it all happens so fast. Because looking back it does. I would love to have those days back, even with the baby in diapers, the wild boy and the tantrum-ing girl. Now they are cool. Well, one isn’t but in less than 1000 days he’ll be an adult too!

And don’t beat yourself up for not being career successful and behind the times. Four Kids!!

Have an adventure if you can. Family? Friends? Dump kids on husband and run ~ for a few hours.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by Inky.

I think everyone has had this sort of experience. It’s the “Love is as perennial as the grass” one. And how men are like trains. You miss one, another one is coming.

I think you met another one of the 72,000. But, once you’ve already made those marriage vows to one of them, you are tied to that soul forever. Unless, of course, you divorce, or cut the ties in a future lifetime.

I suspect the reason why you are still in your marriage is because, in fact, your DH is your Soul Mate.

Because you’ve been with him for so long the feeling of Love gets diluted into the everyday. I had a dream once where all the 20 years of Love I felt for my DH was condensed into one moment in time. I woke up from a deep sleep thinking my heart would burst from all the emotion. Of course DH couldn’t understand what I was talking about/what I meant (engineer).

Just don’t sacrifice your real marriage for what could be a mere feeling, I guess is the group consensus?

• This reply was modified 10 years, 3 months ago by Inky.

So I found an article which discusses the Soul Mate Fantasy. And the Soul Mate Reality that you have to Become The Soul Mate! Enjoy!

The Soul Mate Fantasy

Yeah, when I visit FB, I always realize that misery is right around the corner, just one click away. So which reality would I rather live in? In my happy, private, simple one, of course! I log in, scan my Feed for a minute (literally), play my game, log out. I only check on my kids’ Walls. I “Hide” people, make Friends “Acquaintances”, oh so gradually cut down on my Friends list.

And at his end, what guy (or girl) would write on their Wall “I miss so-and-so.” “Thinking about my beloved ex again.” No one!! People only write about happy things, not depressing ones.

And of course he will get a new girlfriend! Just as surely as you will get a new boyfriend! You know this!!

Yeah, try the gradual detox method.

You can do this!!

A story: My father “hates travelling”, “doesn’t travel”. His wife, twenty years later, put him on a cruise. He “knew” he would hate it.

Guess what?

HE LOVED IT!! Now cruises are their “thing”.

Maybe you going will shake him up to travel. Or he’ll love a certain destination, and you can go there again and again.

Good Luck!

Hi,

My friend has a very real business in Bali, but she also has a very real family here in the States. She makes it work. At first it was a month there, eleven months here. At the worst it’s eleven months there one month here! She makes money and sees her loved ones. I know with a boyfriend it’s different, but I don’t think this one in particular will break up with you if you go out and test the waters a little!