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“The world we see is the one we create for ourselves. If one takes on peoples words as negative then it will be negative. If we decide that someone is trying to isolate us from other then we are doing that. It is tough to build self confidence and to tackle the world without help. And sometimes we want help from our siblings. But, they are just another kids trying to just get by too. Anger and blame won’t change your life. Only you can do that. Only you can make the changes in yourself to be better, to live a better life.”

So are you saying it’s MY FAULT that my sister is trying to isolate me? You say that “If we decide that someone is trying to isolate us from other then we are doing that.” So are you saying that I “decided” that my sister is trying to isolate me? So instead of acknowledging the harmful stuff she’s said, it’s MY fault that I feel isolated, is that correct? That sounds an awful lot like victim blaming. And don’t make excuses for her because “she’s just another kid trying to get by too.” She’s an ADULT! And I have every right to be angry at the stuff she’s said to me! And where in my post did I say I blamed her for anything? Did you even read the post in it’s entirety? Why does everything have to be on me?! Yes, I know I’m the only one who can make changes in my life. Why are you assuming that I’m not? You have NO idea what I’ve been doing to try to better my life despite the crap my sister has said to me. I’m going to therapy, I’m taking my medications, I’m journaling to better process my emotions. So you have no right to make assumptions because you know nothing about me!

Ok, I understand that part. But what about the other instances?

Okay, I admit I was being a jerk and I apologize for being so harsh. No, I don’t feel like you’re attacking me. I’m sorry for being harsh but don’t you DARE bring up my previous therapist who passed away again. That’s crossing the line.

I do have a hobby that allows me to interact with people, like taking a Karate class. I’m also part of my local church’s group. Why can’t I foster a connection with the outdoors and look fro romance at the same time? I can connect with the outdoors and still want a boyfriend at the same time. I find the idea that you “have” to do something first before you search for romance to be quite silly.

And as for jobs, I would like to work a an optometric assistant or ophthalmologic assistant/tech because I like to help people.

That makes no sense. I know that a lot of people my age are looking for a serious relationship instead of just hooking up. And tye idea of just waiting to get older to find a boyfriend is just ridiculous. I don’t WANT to wait to get older so I can finally find a boyfriend. That’s just absurd.