In myself, of course! ;P

Here is the thing, when you have your things under control, your feelings do not matter. Why? Because your feeling are under control, and you pursue a course of actions that satisfy both your needs and your desire to lead a great life. Your feelings in this particular instance have nothing to do with your relationship with your husband, but your relationship with yourself. You are growing, because of your thirst for change, and he is not, because he is satisfied with how things are right now. Accept the fact that you are not yet in a position to inspire the same desire for growth in him as the one that is driving you right now, and move on. Yes, it’s going to be difficult, but it does not mean that you need to divorce your husband or leave him, necessarily.

Why not apply to the programs you want in the places you want, and if you get admitted decide after. Plus, graduate school will always be there, you could take a year off to just apply the skills and the knowledge you already have 🙂

I just have one thing:

I am all around AWESOME! ;P

Loving is wishing the best for other person even if it means letting them go. It’s something we can give, but not something we can take. So, love and take care of yourself first, then wish the best to the person you care about or even help if you are able, but that is all you can do 🙂

• This reply was modified 11 years, 3 months ago by Alexey Sunly.

Your parents are doing the best they can based on the skills they were taught. You need to learn and acquire much better skills and then try to either teach them to your folks, or simply use them to do your best to accept your parents as they are. In the end, if you are not willing to commit to a healthy lifestyle and everyday mediation practice, no advice will help you, unfortunately.

• This reply was modified 11 years, 3 months ago by Alexey Sunly.

Haha! Well, let’s hope things will only get better for you from here, Dave 🙂 I know I will. But, unfortunately, I know that you will be back again and again and again, I am afraid. And your girlfriend is not going to stick for much longer than she has already before the break up, unless you change the way you interact with people and listen to them instead of attacking them.

Oh, and don’t expect me to provide you with any more attention than I already have. Next time you need help, you’ll have to to contact me in private and pay really good money for me to listen to your crazy stories, because they are not really as entertaining or insightful as you might think 😉

And, once again, my name is Alexey. But for you, specifically, it’s Mr. Sunly. Talk to you later, Dave.

Once again, Dave, yes, in fact, you did misquote me the first time. Do you realize a difference between “It sounds like you are not listening…” and “Once again, duh Dave it’s you!!” First statement relies on the observations made from specific words you provided which I specified to you, and second one is something your made up.

“So… 1st step look at yourself right?… obvious really therein lies the problem. Never mind that SHE left ME without explaining anything in a cold callous way”

First step is to admit that you are not perfect… You are right, Dave 🙂 What could I have been possibly thinking! Clearly, you are perfect, and that’s why your girlfriend left you… Makes sense! Being a cold and callous person, she just couldn’t handle having to compare herself to such perfect human specimen like yourself all the time 😉

So, I guess you are right. There is not much support I can provide someone like you, since I am just like your girlfriend… SO very imperfect, and so very very suspicious with all these crazy 🙂 in my posts. But here is the good news, Dave, since you are so very great and perfect, I am sure you’ll have no problem finding yourself another girlfriend, who is not at all callous and cold, and you don’t really need my support after all! Really really great news, isn’t it 😀