To those who know my current situation which you can read about here: http://dev.tinybuddha.com/topic/loss-of-first-love-a-grieving-period-i-need-help-to-understand/

I’m dating this other guy right now. He’s a great guy…but I think I might have jumped in too quickly on this one. I really, really, really want to be with him, but healing is something I really need right now. I honestly thought I was ready. Things are moving as they would in a typical relationship, and I hate doing this, but I can’t keep being okay one minute and not okay the next. My feelings are confusing and he just doesn’t deserve this from me. Really, he’s a sweet guy. But I don’t know what I should do. He has been ever so patient with me when I say I’m having a bad day and I need to cry. I can’t keep doing this to him – it’s not fair. I want him to be my boyfriend. I want to have a relationship with him. I want to be able to give him my full attention…but I’m still crying over my ex. I’m still in need.

I feel like I’m nearly in love with him, but I need to heal first before getting into this. I really hope he sticks around, because he’s someone I feel a great connection with. We share a lot of similar interests and he’s the coolest person I’ve ever met. There was only one other before him, and that was obviously a bust. But when we’re together I just feel natural being with him. I feel like I have nothing to hide from him. That I can hear him tell me I’m over-thinking something and I can literally refocus myself. He tells me things how they are. He doesn’t deserve someone who’s hurting. He deserves someone who is ready to give their love and affection and to grow with him and not be held back because they’re still hurting. Time heals all wounds but only if we face the pain when we feel it.

He’s told me he’s only here as long as I want him around.

Guys, what should I do?