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  • January 12, 2026 at 4:19 am #454027
    luna
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    I am really not sure how to title this. I am just feeling lost. Found out my mom is seeing her ex husband that on countless times has almost destroyed her family. Its hard for me to understand why. Her reasoning is he has found Christ. Yea I will believe that when God comes down and tells me that he has. He has put our family through so much. He has stolen in the physical sense countless things. I guess my thing is I will never trust him and to a extent I guess my mom either. She straight up asked me why I have so much hate. It makes me feel like I am wrong for how I feel. I am wrong to tell her not to ever bring him near me ever again. I know she will never believe this but she changes when he back in the picture. I notice so I had a feeling it was coming but its like not again. I don’t think I can handle a fourth time of this crap. Am I wrong? There is alot of back story but I am just soooo frustrated. If I am in the wrong place to post this just let me know. Thanks for anyone that listens.

    January 12, 2026 at 8:13 am #454070
    Thomas168
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    It is really good to hear from you. Was worried you wouldn’t come back and let us know how you were doing.

    It sounds like you are in a very difficult situation. Being really dependent upon your mom, you feel you have no choices but to follow the whims of your mom. Also, that your wishes are not being heard and you are feeling dismissed. I do not know what to say to help you protect yourself from such situations. But, my hopes and best wishes are with you.

    January 12, 2026 at 9:42 am #454075
    anita
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    Dear luna:

    You are not wrong to post this here and you are not wrong to feel the way you do!

    I can hear how distressed you are over the situation, and understandably so.

    I don’t know if you’re living with your mother (and having to live with her ex as well) or are you living away from her, on your own?

    ️🤍 Anita

    January 12, 2026 at 10:15 am #454085
    Roberta
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    Dear Luna
    I am sorry that your current situation feels a bit of a rerun of past hurts. I know I was very flaky in the romance department for probably least 40 years ( I married at 17). Eventually I got around to some introspection & buddhism was what resonated with me, but even with those magnificent tools it still took a coupe more romantic gaffs for me to be older & wiser.

    I just jotted down a few ideas here. I think the trick is for your mum not to immediately feel on the defensive about the reconnecting with her ex. “mum I wish for you to be happy. I hope that … finding Christ brings about changes that will nurture both yours & his happiness. I need to feel safe & this may take some time, so please can the pair of you be patient with me.”

    I hope this can be of some help.
    Kind regards
    Roberta

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