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October 27, 2025 at 7:20 am #451264
EvaParticipantI know that I shouldn’t compare my life to others… That every timeline is different and all that. But I feel very depressed because everyone around me is getting married, having kids, my sister has a good relationship that goes forward, and I… nothing. Even when I had a relationship, they never a true relationship, like traveling together, meeting each other’s parents, friends, I experienced that as a normal relationship should. Now I am starting to get more and more frustrated, envious of everyone cause I am not moving forward. I feel stuck, very bad, and behind in everything. Can’t figure out where to live. If I love the current company I work at, can’t find someone that I really like or is similar to me, I have trouble with friends, lost a lot of friends because I started setting boundaries and telling how I feel… I feel like I am nowhere. Like I cannot enjoy life at all, cannot be joyful because I feel like there is a mist in my head. I hate my life right now, and I think of ending it because I can’t see a solution to my problems. I just don’t see how to change it. I live in a country where there are not many opportunities, I can’t emigrate that easily, and I am weird, different from the majority. I don’t know if I have some kind of autism, OCD, or anything that keeps me this way, but I really do not know where to start, so something can move. I feel like my ex before my ex was the kind of partner and life I want, but I know it’s just wishful thinking because of the state I am now. The relationship was not perfect because we had a lot of ups and downs, but I still cling on, and I know that he has moved on 100%.
I don’t know where to start… what to do….How to change anything. Seriously, I feel like there is no way that my life would improve.
October 27, 2025 at 11:27 am #451273
anitaParticipantDear Eva:
I am sorry that you’re feeling so poorly, but I am glad that you chose to express yourself here.
You mentioned you live in a country where there aren’t many opportunities. I don’t remember if you mentioned what country that is (in your previous thread)..?
🤍🌿 Anita
October 27, 2025 at 12:31 pm #451274anitaParticipantDear Eva:
You wrote: ” I hate my life right now, and I think of ending it because I can’t see a solution to my problems”-
I hear how heavy things feel right now. When life hurts this much, it can feel like there’s no way out — but there are people who care and want to help you through this.
You don’t have to figure everything out today. You don’t have to carry this alone.
🌍 No matter where you are, there are people trained to support you — gently, without judgment. You can find someone to talk to here:
https://findahelpline.com — just type in your country
https://www.befrienders.org — emotional support in 30+ countries
https://www.7cups.com — free, anonymous chat with trained listeners
You matter. Your pain matters. And there is help. I’m here, and I believe in your right to stay.
🫶🕯️Anita
October 29, 2025 at 3:57 am #451342
TeeParticipantDear Eva,
I’m sorry you’re feeling like you’re lagging behind in life and also pretty helpless to change your current circumstances.
I don’t know where to start… what to do….How to change anything. Seriously, I feel like there is no way that my life would improve.
The way to start is to realize that you’re a product of your upbringing and the things (trauma, emotional abuse) that you’ve been exposed to.
You’ve shared about the abuse you’ve experienced (and are still experiencing) from your father, who has been terrorizing you your entire life, emotionally blackmailing you and even threatening to take his own life unless you do as he pleases.
Your emotional needs were absolutely not met, and you were never loved and accepted for who you are. You were always criticized and put down.
Growing up in such an environment takes a toll on the child and they grow up with severe lack of self-esteem and the inability to live a fulfilling life, or form healthy relationships.
It’s all the legacy of the toxic upbringing that you were exposed to (and you might be more sensitive than your sister, who probably has a different personality and might be more resilient, at least on the surface).
Anyway, the first thing would be not to ask yourself: “What’s wrong with me?”, but “What happened to me?”
That’s how you can start developing compassion and understanding for yourself, and stop severely judging yourself. Because self-condemnation is a pattern that we pick up from our parents: the harsh inner critic is the internalized voice of our critical parents, who showed us no empathy.
Dear Eva, I believe the answer is to reorient your mind from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What happened to me?”… and then slowly, gradually find healing. It is absolutely possible and worth doing! ❤️
How does this sound?
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