Dear Mina:

You started 4 threads in the span of a minute. In your thread “Cheated” you shared that after many years, you realized that your school friend is not really your friend, that when you said this to your parents, they abused you, that your counselors says that you lack life skills, and that you feel “scared and lonely and helpless…. terrified”. In your thread “Worse Life”, you shared that you are fed up with how your mother is treating you. In “Bad parents”, you shared that your father told your psychiatrist that you are jealous of your brother getting married, that your mother teases and provokes you, that your parents bribed your doctors and are misleading you, and that you are broken. In your thread “Unfair”, you shared: “My mom who abused me is enjoying her life, and I’m left to take medicines”, and that when you were working, you bought your mother things, but when you now ask her for money, she will not give any, not even pocket money.

I am sorry, Mina, that you are suffering. Can you tell me approximately how old you are and if you are attending high school, or college. as well as why you are seeing a psychiatrist and doctors?

anita

Dear Mina:

I am so sorry that your mother abused you, that your father added to it, and that you are suffering the consequences of her abuse. My mother abused me and I suffered a whole lot as a result. Almost 10 years ago, I ended all contact with her (and within a year I stopped taking all the psychiatric drugs I was on!).  It was difficult, but eventually, I reaped the benefits. I am still (I am older than you) not free of the severe consequences of her abuse of me, but things are better for me. I wish that you shared more and that we can communicate for a while.

anita

Dear Mina:

Double posting, I just read your two most recent posts. “Is it possible that my mother said and did things which triggers me emotionally”? – yes, of course what she said and did (including putting a hot knife on your body) triggered you and damaged you. Parental abuse always triggers and damages children.

anita