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  • March 1, 2021 at 3:01 pm #375415
    Anonymous
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    Dear miaim:

    “I am in my late twenties and have been interested in art all my life… I have always been so sure of what I want to do and now that I am ‘living the dream’ I have started to second guess it”-

    – I think that the problem is that living the dream is hardly ever as dreamy as when dreaming the dream. There is always a lack when one actualizes a dream: it just doesn’t feel as magnificent to live a dream as it is to as imagine and anticipate a dream.

    It makes me think of the fairytale/ dream stories that end with “and they lived happily ever after”. It is a good thing that these old-fashioned fairytale books run out of paper at that point, otherwise there would be lots of boredom and blahs in papers to follow.

    anita

    March 1, 2021 at 11:42 pm #375450
    Tee
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    Dear miaim,

    is there a particular reason you’ve started questioning your choice of art as a career path? You said you’ve never questioned it much before, you simply knew it was a good choice for you and you went with the flow. But now, during the pandemic, I suppose you had more time on your hands and you started thinking about it more? What do you think is making you doubt yourself at this point?

    May 6, 2021 at 11:11 am #379266
    Brendon
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    I think all people experience this. You grow up, you gain experience, and your priorities change.

    I used to think I knew who I wanted to be and what I wanted to do. But when I got an education and went to work where I wanted to go, I realized that’s not my life’s purpose, and I have somewhere to grow. I mean, you can’t achieve something and then enjoy it your whole life. There are ups and downs in life, moments when everything loses its meaning, and moments when everything seems meaningful. The main thing is not to stand still. I know people who do nothing, sit at home and have no hobbies and no goals, and say they are not interested. They are closed to anything new. You can’t do that. You have to be constantly on the search. If you have now lost the meaning of what you were doing for a long time, it means that in its place another interest will come. The main thing is to stay open to possibilities.

    May 6, 2021 at 10:43 pm #379319
    Maria
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    Hi, miaim,

    Well, my story’s here. I thought I wanted to be a teacher right from my childhood. I also wanted to be a vet. But thanks to my rationality, I decided not to go for it. 😀 Not only that, but I had a passion for English, so my mother and I thought it would be great to become an English teacher. I have a degree. Yes, I can be a teacher at any time, as in Russia, there is always a career opportunity for that. And I worked as a teacher. That was not that bad, actually. But what I felt was that inner feeling of doing something wrong. That’s when I understood that being a teacher was not MY dream but my mother’s. I know she tried to do the right thing for me.

    Now my career is still connected to English but not to teaching. And I still hear my mom saying that “I’m in the wrong business.” Good thing I live far from her. And my job gives me enough money for living. But what’s important is it also gives me joy. Finally, I do what I like. I can’t call it “living the dream.” But I find it good enough to feel comfortable.

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