Hello everyone,

So I started seeing this woman a couple of months ago and things were really great! We were flirty, sweet to each other and we knew how to throw jokes at each other.  After a couple of months we got comfortable with each other and I suppose the flirty and sweetness has gone on the low end (which is fine). Lately she has been bringing up some stuff that has to do with a woman I dated about a year before seeing the current woman I’m writing to you all about, regards with my ex liking her photos on social media or coming into her work and causing a bunch of drama.  Well I soon find out my ex was just there with her friend unknowing that the woman I’ve been seeing works there.  really I could just go on. My ex and I are still friends and it became a red flag for me That the woman I’ve been seeing was lying to me about how my ex knew she worked there and would show up to cause commotion.  Later her and I and some of my friends went to a concert and me and my buddies took a photo, and I later posted it, and she freaked on me saying I was keeping her secret from all my other “things” which is the biggest load of crap I’ve ever heard, and is now saying that I’m friend zoning her because I’m less flirty or sweet and I talk to her like she’s my buddy.  The last straw was I had plans with two of my best friends to go dinner in the same day she doesn’t work, and she was guilt tripping because she wanted to hang out (I didn’t know prior that she had that day off) I realize from all of this I’ve lost a load of interest and I’m trying to figure out the best way possible to tell her this without her freaking out.  I’ve been loyal and caring for this woman and I feel like being myself isn’t good enough and I’m over it.  I’d like to keep this woman as a friend but I fear that won’t happen, but I know that I would be better off not being In relationship with this woman.

I apologize for the novel, I’m just desperate with some advice.

Thank you!

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