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August 29, 2019 at 1:27 pm #309669LisaParticipant
I had just came back from vacation and my lover wanted to see me. He was calling me while I was on vacation whenever I was able to get service being that I was on a cruise. Anyway while I was gone he told me his truck was in the shop and it cost money When we went to our usual spot he didn’t have his truck he had his cousin’s truck. He have bmw and it cost money to get out.
While we were having sex his cousin called and I guess she needed for him to come pick her up. She told him where she was at because she wasn’t home. He even had her on speaker. Why I don’t know. So we were still into what we were doing it wasn’t even a good 5 minutes and she called back to see if he had left. He said to her omg I’m in the middle of something right now daaang.So as we finished up we got dressed went down to our cars kissed and left.
Like an hour and half later I was at the supermarket waiting in the deli line and my phone rings. It is him. He addressed me by my name and said wasn’t we screwing but that’s not the word he used. I kinda felt little embarrassed and played it off said yea we were getting it in. She said to me while laughing oh ok I thought he was lying. I know he had her car and all but don’t get why he did that.
August 29, 2019 at 1:37 pm #309671MarkParticipantLisa,
In any relationship, it is essential to be able to communicate honestly, forthrightly, directly and kindly. If you want him not to answer the phone during sex then tell him. If you rather keep your private life private then tell him. You have a right to what you want. He may not think it is a big deal but the relationship is with you and it’s not all about him.
Mark
August 29, 2019 at 1:54 pm #309677LisaParticipantwell it kinda was in between not so much during but we still were laying on the bed. I know I could tell him but that didn’t answer my question as to why he even did that in the first place
August 29, 2019 at 2:08 pm #309683MarkParticipantLisa,
You can ask him on the “why” but ultimately it does not matter. What matters is what you want from him when it comes to having a respectful and kind relationship.
Mark
August 29, 2019 at 8:00 pm #309695ValoraParticipantI agree with Mark that the “why” doesn’t really matter and that you should ask him about it in order to get the real answer (because none of us here know him), but I have a feeling it was something along the lines of his cousin asking him what he was doing that was so important he couldn’t leave right then and so he told her. It sounds like he has different ideas of privacy when it comes to intimate things than you do though. He clearly didn’t think it was a big deal to tell her because he called you up to confirm it, while you felt kind of embarrassed by it, so that’s a disconnect/miscommunication that you two should talk about and clear up just so you’re on the same page.
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