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Every time I talk to my cousin I end up depressed

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  • August 18, 2019 at 7:32 am #308441
    Inky
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    Hi Katie,

    Does she live with you? If so, close the bedroom or even bathroom door after fifteen minutes of this nonsense.

    If she doesn’t listen to you, you can: “forget” you were supposed to meet, say you’re “busy”, arrive late, leave early, not answer every text, not return every phone call, answer multiple texts with one emoji, cut the call short.

    If you want to have fun, tell her that every time she badmouths another girl you’re going to take a drink. Turn it into a drinking game! If you’re not old enough to drink, just play with your phone and mutter, “Go on, I’m listening” when you clearly aren’t.

    Drive her crazy: Tell her you’re entering a beauty pageant. Do it! There are many “average” girls who enter, actually.

    Tell her you’re modelling for a local company. Do it! Local businesses love familiar town faces in their ads.

    Tell her in front of your whole family that you love grandma’s nose and how you love looking like everyone else in the family. She will see that the people who matter love you no matter what.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    August 18, 2019 at 1:26 pm #308491
    Peggy
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    Hi Katie,

    Your friend is having a bad effect on you because you are not resonating with her.  Every time she criticizes the way someone else looks, it reminds you that she has criticized the way you look and there is no justification in it.  Try not to get involved in the conversations.  Tell her that you think it’s shallow to judge people on their looks alone.  If you can’t change the conversation, think of something good to say about the person she is criticizing.  If all else fails, cease to be her friend.

    You’ve taken your friend’s words so seriously that you’ve gone out and checked for yourself.  The results do not support your friend’s words yet still you look in the mirror sometimes and revert to thinking and believing that your nose is too big and your friend was right all along.

    You ‘inherited’ your nose from someone in your family, as Inky pointed out, and it didn’t stop them from finding suitable relationships and procreating.  It’s just a nose.  It breathes in air.  It breathes in smells.  It keeps you alive.  Who cares what shape it is?

    Stop focusing on how your nose looks and start focusing on all the wonderful functions it performs in keeping you alive.

    Peggy

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