Dear all,

First of all I am sorry for my English as I am not native speaker and thank you for reading my story.

I would like to know opinion/advice as I am in pain and don’t know what to do.

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He is Asian and I am European. We live together in Europe. Past 6 months were very rocky between us. We argued a lot and I became a bit paranoid if he is really serious about our relationship. I am in age ( mid 30s ) when I want children and marriage (he is 4 years younger) but mature. I have not met his parents but I met his sister and aunt and his parents know about our relationship. My family accepted him immediately. Approximately 6 moths ago he told me that he must live with his parents. I was surprised because when we started dating he told me that his parents are not strict and that he can be with whom he chooses to be. He doesn’t have good relations with them and he told me that it will be big challenge for him to live with them but it is something he cannot change. There are also other things that popped up during our discussion and I was very surprised he did not tell me before that are so important for him – mostly their cultural traditions that his wife should follows and which some of them I am probably not able to accept. Past months we argued and discussed these things but couldn’t get to agreement. There is huge pressure from his parents as they expect him to take care of his siblings and them. He said that he owes his parents because they supported him and he was able to come to Europe and now he must live with them and take care of them. I told him I don’t want him to abandon his parents which means that he will end our relationship because I am not willing to follow him to his country. I told him that I don’t have an idea what is life like over there, how are his parents and if they would accept me because he never took me there. He got mad and told me that he needs someone who will not hesitate to follow him anywhere and doesn’t require to see it first.

This week he left to live with his sister and told me we must have a break from each other because we argue all the time. He wants me to think about all the things we talked – about bad living conditions in his country and so on. He said it is not life I expected for myself and for my  (our ) kids and that he doesn’t wanna ruin my life. He said we must act rationally and not be blinded by love.

I am in pain and confused since he left and I don’t wanna loose him but I feel like he completely lost interest in our relationship.

I did not contact him for 3 days but I am not able to eat and do regular things normally.

I would be just grateful for opinion / advice on the situation. Thank you very much!