Dear JC:

It does read like “Her actions and words often contradict”- her actions contradict her actions and her words contradict her words as well: she pursued you and broke it off, she said that she felt an “undeniable connection and chemistry” and that she is “emotionally unavailable” (how can a person not emotionally available feel a strong emotional connection..?)

In this “new relationship” you text her once or twice a day and sometimes she does not respond to your texts. How often does she ignore your texts and when she does text, does she tell you why she ignored a previous text?

anita

Dear JC:

What kinds of texts that you send her does she ignore, how often?

anita

Dear JC:

Okay, so it is not like you ask a question and she does not respond. When texting, someone has to be the last to text, can’t keep responding to each other, that way texting will take place all day long.

I will be away from the computer for a while and will answer more when I return. Maybe other members will reply to you before I am back. Feel free to add any information that may be relevant.

anita

Dear JC:

I understand her caution in the relationship with you, the two of you having young children from previous relationships does call for caution.

Things went too fast and she wants it to slow down, reasonable to me.

Problem is you are uncomfortable with taking things slow. You are building some anger toward her, for not going fast like before, faster like you would like.

I would say that the only two reasonable choices for you are to either take it slow, as it is currently or end the relationship. Trying to accelerate it will be wrong for her, for her children, and for yours. Remember the primary responsibility of a parent should be the emotional well being of young children.

If a parent is more available and attentive for her/his children with a limited romantic relationship or none at all, then a parents should limit or end a romantic relationship altogether.

anita