We’ve gone to Therapy a few times which has helped only a little bit and I know he still wants to continue Therapy to resolve his issues but at the same time it feels like he’s only doing it for me. Should he be wanting it for himself too?

I’m so scared to leave someone I know I love so much but how do you know if it’s already too late? If the damage is already done can you even heal? I feel so broken, useless, not enough even though he’s been trying to make things right for the last 4 months. Should I continue this war going on in my mind & heart? If anyone has seen things get better, I just need to know. I feel hopeless…

Therapy is definitely not as effective if you aren’t doing it for yourself, but do you think it’s possible he may be doing it for both of you (himself, too), because hopefully he’d understand that NO woman would prefer a man who does the things he had been doing… even if a girl says she doesn’t care, it’s always better when they have eyes only for you.

I feel like 4 months is a short amount of time as far as therapy goes, especially if you’ve only gone a few times. Do you go weekly?  Do you know if he’s continued that behavior in the last 4 months or has he tried to curb it?

Totally agree with Mark.  You teach people how to treat you, and if your (very reasonable) boundaries are not honoured then it’s time to hold your head high, and seek the person who will.  It’s taken me a long time to understand this, and while it’s not easy to put your own needs and truth first, there is a great difference between selfishness and self preservation. How much are you prepared to lose?