Dear Cate,

A guy who ended up sleeping with one of your sorority sister and one of your closest friends, someone leading you in to a deep depression, someone with an alcohol and a drug problem, a self admitted sociopath, someone who makes you feel worthless.

Being his girlfriend doesn’t seem like a good thing for you given all these things. You are good enough on your own. You not being his girlfriend is not about you, it is his loss.

Taking a break from whatever relationship you have with him sounds like a good idea. With you feeling that way (“I want him in my life; I just don’t want him to have a girlfriend”), continuing to be friends is likely to do you more harm than good.

Take care

Hi Cate,

Out of all the women at the college/university, he just HAS to sleep with your best friend/sorority sister. Then he proceeds to sleep with everyone you know. Meanwhile, he KNOWS you like him, and so it is (of course) irresistible to this character to hold ONLY you at bay.

Of course he’s a sociopath! He admits it! And those types are VERY good with people. He has no trouble getting into anyone’s pants.

Except yours, from now on! Tell him point blank that “It will NEVER happen between us!” whether he admits to those feelings or not. But beware. This is a game to him and his ultimate goal WILL be to sleep with you only AFTER you ADAMANTLY  tell him (in a scoffing way) “You slept with all these friends of mine, so don’t sniff around here, buddy!”

No, you don’t have to block him on Social Media, but do Hide him if you can so you can’t see his shenanigans.

Best,

Inky

Hello Cate,

Maybe by changing your perspective towards love might make you feel better. Somehow we have to admit that, dating someone else is a bet in our life, either he or she will be ideal partner or a bad partner. A bad partner will bring more harm than happiness, just like what you have mentioned; depression.

Obviously, you’re dating a bad partner. This phase of your life will be the time for you to learn “how to let go”. It’s part of our journey, everyone does. You’re not alone.

Take this lesson as positive force for you to have more visibility in relationship and now you know what makes a ideal partner.

The next relationship, you must have some prerequisite for it; honest, kind, gentlemen and etc. I know what I am trying to say 🙂

Cheers,

George