Should I call off the wedding?

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July 30, 2018 at 12:43 am #219329

Prash
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Dear Sherly,

It appears as if after moving in, your boyfriend is taking you for granted and not showing consideration for things that are clearly important to you. Admitting faults, keeping quiet and saying sorry without making any efforts at correcting any of these also do not sound healthy to me.

This is your life. Even if your parents would be really upset about the wedding, I am sure they will be even more upset later if they find that their daughter is in an unhappy marriage. He may be having his issues but you sure don’t want to take a decision that you will regret later on.

Take care

July 30, 2018 at 3:20 am #219351

Anonymous
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Dear Sherly:

When a woman who is not yet married, living with the man she is going to marry, states: “I don’t know how to get out of this unhappy life”, the answer to “Should I call off the wedding?” is a clear

Yes, do call of the wedding, and either move out or have him move out.

* It is a bad idea to volunteer for an unhappily-ever- after-life so to not disappoint your parents. It will be worse to bring children into an unhappy life so to.. not disappoint your parents.

I hope to read from you more.

anita

August 1, 2018 at 8:39 am #219869

Lara
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I have not been married but I heard it can be pretty difficult to get out of a marriage once you are married. You can’t change men (/ women), so is this really the guy you want to be with for a long time? Depending on where you are, your parents might try to argue but I think you should listen to your gut feeling.

August 1, 2018 at 10:08 am #219883

Mark
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Sherly,

After 1.5 yrs you have stated that your fiance’ is:

1. Not the same caring person – does not text or call as much

2. Admits fault and keeps quiet

3. Keeps saying sorry for all the mistakes

4. Got drunk and missed the party that was planned a month in advance

5. Forgot that it was your father’s birthday and he did not wish him a happy birthday

I’m not sure whether that constitutes a reason to call off a wedding. Maybe delay the wedding to work on your relationship.

I really don’t see what makes any of this a major concern.

#1 I see as a natural settling down from the romantic phase.

#2 & #3 are not issues in my opinion.

#4 May or may not be a one time thing.

#5 Is not a big deal in my opinion.

Am I missing something? Regardless, I would not throw the baby out with the bath water. Just find ways of communicating and resolving issues. I don’t see any of this as major character or behavior flaws.

Mark

August 5, 2018 at 8:41 pm #220437

Sherly
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Thank you very much, everyone, for all the opinions and precious advice. Means a lot to me to get through this rough patch.
We are taking some time off and trying to work on our relationship. Hopefully, things will be alright for us soon.

Thank you very much again!
Sherly <3

August 5, 2018 at 8:43 pm #220439

Prash
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Dear Sherly,

That seems a very wise decision. Hope it all goes well for you.

Prayers

Take care
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