Dear RedDress:

You know that your parents can be wrong about things, don’t you? They think they know something, and you found out that they don’t. That happened, correct?

Here is something they told you and are wrong about (from another thread): “Every day my parents remind me how hard I am to get along with and that it’s no wonder I have no friends or lasting relationships”-

I know they are wrong because a child is not born hard to get along with. A child is born reaching out, loving and open. And so, it is them, your parents who are hard to get along with, so much so that a loving, open child closed off to them (and to everyone else).

In this thread you wrote: “I don’t have any more close friends” because you closed off to your parents first (their fault) and to everyone else as you project them into others.

For a child the parent’s voice is the voice of god. A child believes. Later on you see your parents as less than gods, less than perfect, but what they told you is still the voice of god because it was heard and remembered when you did see them as perfect, all knowing.

anita