The love of my life is married

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April 9, 2018 at 11:15 am #201503

Anonymous
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Dear Adi:

You miss him.

You wrote: “I am sure I know the answers” (your first line).

What are the questions?

anita

April 9, 2018 at 11:23 am #201507

Adi
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How can I move on? is it correct to keep contact with him? sometimes I feel angry I don´t understand why he didn’t stayed with me… am I going to find a man for me?

April 9, 2018 at 11:37 am #201519

Anonymous
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Dear Adj:

You asked: “Is it correct to keep contact with him?”

The answer to this question may be the same as your answer to my question: was it correct, for you (was it to your benefit), to have this relationship with him, looking back?

(Regarding whether it will be correct, or beneficial for him or for his now wife, we can discuss it later, if you want)

Regarding how to move on, this has to do with the question and answer to the above, I believe.

anita

April 10, 2018 at 5:08 am #201605

Inky
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Hi Adi,

This man took you for a ride, I’m afraid. The vast age difference and the wife are two red flags. You fell for the classic “visa issues” excuse. An older woman would laugh at that reason. Sorry to be so tough, but next time find someone closer to your age than your parents’ age and someone who is single.

Best,

Inky

April 10, 2018 at 8:09 am #201637

Adi
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Thank you guys…. I know I shouldn’t´t invest more time on this, he is back in his country and I find very silly to be affected of something or someone that is far away from here and not coming back….

April 10, 2018 at 8:32 am #201641

Anonymous
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Dear Adi:

I hope you do manage to move on, and I hope that “The love of (your) life” is yet to appear. How wonderful that would be.

anita

April 10, 2018 at 10:38 am #201633

Tebriz
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Hello Adi,

First of all starting a relationship with a guy who is not single is never a good idea in my opinion. But hey, we are human and sometimes what we know, and what are instincts want us to do is different. I think there was true feelings between the both of you for sure, but now you should think of your self and let him go. Keep in mind that everything passes. One of the things that work for me when im dealing with a break up is to think that- THIS IS THE BEST THING FOR ME happening right now. I know its hard, and memories play in your head, and its so true, you are in love. But it passes.And it gets better.

April 10, 2018 at 9:54 pm #201713

Mark
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Adi,

Missing someone whom you had a good experience with is natural. However dwelling and staying in the past does not serve you.

Meditation on those feelings is a way of getting through them and then gives you the ability to be in the present moment.

What do you have around you now? Who do you have in your life now? What do you appreciate today? What are you grateful for? Write those things down. All that helps you to be in the Now.

Mark
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