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  • February 26, 2018 at 9:30 am #194791
    Inky
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    Hi Athena,

    It is good, actually, that you two are so different. He and the family are benefitting, even indirectly, from your thoughts, choices and actions.

    Because you have children I’m not advising you leave him. Not yet.

    Keep living your life, and accept his unevolved state. At least there is some goodness in him. He may evolve in the future, but clearly he’s not there yet.

    I know it’s frustrating.

    Best,

    Inky

    February 26, 2018 at 10:02 am #194801
    Mark
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    athena,

    You implied that your husband is not inclined to work on your unhappiness in your marriage.

    If that is the case then start taking steps to help yourself.  If you are truly want out of your marriage then start planning on how you are going to make a life without him as your husband.

    Plus you can start working on yourself in how to be happy.  Find things to do that gives you satisfaction and gives you joy.  Focus on that.  Work on how you can build your own wealth so you don’t have to be financially dependent on him.

    Mark

     

    February 26, 2018 at 10:35 am #194807
    Anonymous
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    Dear Athena:

    It is possible that part of the awakening you mentioned may include realizations that are not completely true, realizations that are partly true. For example, he may admire the way you look but sees you way more than a trophy wife. Maybe his reliance on insurance is not senseless. You may be thinking in all-or-nothing terms.

    I think it will be a good idea if you attend quality psychotherapy to examine your thoughts and new beliefs, evaluate those and come to better, more accurate understanding before you rush to maybe end the marriage.

    anita

    June 17, 2018 at 5:45 am #212779
    athena
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    Thanks everyone.

    I worked on and still working on myself. I had attachment issues with my mother which makes sense for how my life has turned out.

    Knowledge is power. Now I know I can better plan my future and address issues as they come.

     

    June 17, 2018 at 5:55 am #212781
    Anonymous
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    Dear athena:

    You are welcome.

    It is the norm, not the exception, to realize that if only we were aware then of what we are aware of now, we would have made different choices. I don’t think there is a person in the world, who once examining his or her life, does not conclude that he/ she would have made very different choices and would have lived a very different life.

    And so, we are all left, when we awaken, with the life that is available to us here and now. We do not have any access to the life we could have had if only…

    And so, I hope you do your best with the life that is available to you. Post again anytime.

    anita

     

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