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Severe early childhood trauma creates a child with equally intense coping mechanisms—these children are often seen as ‘mature for their age’ and ‘old souls.’ While maybe true, it often negates the fact that their innocence was taken away at an early age and they are in survival mode.

Spend time with people who are good for your mental health.

Understand that healing and growing can distance you from people who you once had a bond with, and it can also bring you closer to those who will heal and grow with you. The time in between can be difficult, but there is so much to learn in solitude.

Know that this, too, will pass. Tomorrow you will wake up with 232 billion new cells in your body. That alone is reason for hope.

We need more people who are willing to say, ‘I’ve been there, and I’m here. You can always talk to me without judgment.’

You gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in the sad, the gain in your pain, and what makes you grateful not hateful.

The strongest people are the ones who are still kind after the world tore them apart.

The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.

It is not always possible to know why people act the way they do, but I can guarantee that you will feel better if you give people the benefit of the doubt more often than not. When in doubt, be kind. It doesn’t cost anything to be kind.

People don’t always say I love you. Sometimes it sounds like: Be safe. Did you eat? Call me when you get home. I made you this.

Being called weird is like being called Limited Edition. Meaning you’re something people don’t see that often. Remember that.

Relax wild one. It’s not your job to be everything everyone needs, and you don’t have to be impressive to be loved. Stop trying so hard. Just show up and be real with the world. That is enough.

Perhaps the most important step in habit changing is to first accept yourself for who you are, flaws and all. Those imperfections are what make us human. Instead of talking yourself down, try treating yourself as you would a loved one. Be forgiving, and realize that wherever you are right now, it’s okay. You’re more likely to succeed in making changes if they’re coming from a place of self-respect rather than self-hatred.

When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we are not pretending, we are not hiding—we are simply present with whatever is going on inside us. Ironically, it is this very feeling of authenticity that draws people to us, not the brittle effort of perfectionism.

The world is already so full of conflict. If we want to create more peace in the world, we have to choose not to take things personally and instead respond with understanding, compassion, connection, and peace.

Dear self: Don’t get so worked up over things you can’t change or people you can’t change. It’s not worth the anger buildup or the heartache. Control only what you can. Let go. ~Love me

As traumatized children we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed that it would, in fact, be ourselves, as adults.

The most powerful thing you can do right now is be patient while things are unfolding for you.

It wasn’t the trauma that made you strong, kinder, and more compassionate. It’s how you handled it. That credit is yours.

The beautiful thing about life is that you can always change, grow, and get better. You aren’t defined by your past. You aren’t your mistakes.