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Don’t tell a mother she looks tired; she already knows that. Tell her she’s doing a great job; she may not know that.

I am not impressed by money, status, or job title. I’m impressed by the way you treat other human beings.

You will never forget a person who came to you with a torch in the dark.

When a child can’t calm down they need connection and comfort, not criticism and control.

Sometimes we need someone to simply be there, not to fix anything or do anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.

What does it mean to hold space for another person? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgment and control.

You don’t need a ‘perfect relationship.’ All you need is someone who loves your weirdness, wants to spend time with you, and respects you.

Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need, rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause, not the symptom.

Standing up for yourself doesn’t make you argumentative. Sharing your feelings doesn’t make you oversensitive. And saying no doesn’t make you uncaring or selfish. If someone won’t respect your feelings, needs, and boundaries, the problem isn’t you; it’s them.

Your circle should want to see you win. Your circle should clap the loudest when you have good news. If they don’t, get a new circle.

Love will not save you. But it will hold your hand while you save yourself. And in a world that sometimes seems void of goodness, in a world that sometimes feels too heavy to bear, I think that is all we are really searching for. Someone by our side. Someone who grounds us. Someone who will quietly hug us for twenty minutes straight while we figure it all out. I think that is all anyone really needs. Someone who sees them. Someone who stays.

It’s important to make friendships that are deeper than gossiping, drinking, and hanging out. Make friends who you can have deep conversations with. Make friends you can cry with. Make friends who support your life goals and believe in you.

Some people aren’t good at asking for help because they’re so used to being ‘the helper.’ Throughout their life they’ve experienced an unbalanced give and take, so their instinct is usually ‘I’ll figure it out on my own.’ The self-reliance is all they’ve ever known.

Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.’

Spend time with people who are good for your mental health.

Understand that healing and growing can distance you from people who you once had a bond with, and it can also bring you closer to those who will heal and grow with you. The time in between can be difficult, but there is so much to learn in solitude.

We need more people who are willing to say, ‘I’ve been there, and I’m here. You can always talk to me without judgment.’

People don’t always say I love you. Sometimes it sounds like: Be safe. Did you eat? Call me when you get home. I made you this.

What is the difference between ‘I like you’ and ‘I love you?’ Beautifully answered by the Buddha: ‘When you like a flower, you just pluck it; when you love a flower, you water it daily.’ The one who understands this, understands life.

As you get older you really just want to be surrounded by good people. People who are good for you, good to you, and good for your soul.