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Dear music: Thank you for always clearing my head, healing my heart, and lifting my spirits.

The strongest hearts have the most scars.

Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful parts of ourselves.

What’s broken can be mended. What hurts can be healed. And no matter how dark it gets, the sun is going to rise again.

Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex; but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

We are all wounded people dealing with messy emotions in a confusing, uncertain, sometimes scary world. That doesn’t give anyone the right to be mean, thoughtless, or disrespectful. But remembering this makes it a little easier to think, ‘I hope you heal from your pain’ instead of ‘I hope you hurt like you hurt me.’

Don’t underestimate the healing power of these three things: music, the ocean, and the stars.

One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul.

I realized, it is not the time that heals, but what we do within that time that creates positive change.

Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean condoning their behavior. It doesn’t mean forgetting how they hurt you or giving that person room to hurt you again. Forgiving someone means making peace with what happened. It means acknowledging your wound, giving yourself permission to feel the pain, and recognizing why that pain no longer serves you. It means letting go of the hurt and resentment so that you can heal and move on.

Don’t let past relationships ruin your future happiness. Scars remind us of where we’ve been, not where we are going.

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals.

Rejection doesn’t hurt, expectation does. Lying doesn’t destroy, denial does. Forgetfulness doesn’t heal, forgiveness does.

Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.

I follow four dictates: face it, accept it, deal with it, then let it go.

Pain can change you, but that doesn’t mean it has to be a bad change. Take that pain and turn it into wisdom.

We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.

The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.