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Our brains are wired for connection, but trauma rewires them for protection. That’s why healthy relationships are difficult for wounded people.

It’s okay that you don’t know how to move on. Start with something easier… like not going back.

I thought I was broken and needed fixing. Not true! I was hurting and needed healing. A completely different concept.

Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Sit with it. Even though you want to run. Even when it’s heavy and difficult. Even though you’re not quite sure of the way through. Healing happens by feeling.

When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’

Despite all the bad days and mean people, I still believe in good days and kind people. Plus, there are always dogs.

I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you think you can’t.

In my world there are no bad kids, just impressionable, conflicted young people wrestling with emotions and impulses, trying to communicate their feelings and needs the only way they know how.

And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in.

Sometimes all you can do is accept there’s not much you can do. And sometimes all you can control is how well you let go of control.

Do what you can, when you can, with as much love and honesty as you can, and when you can’t, rest.

Your current situation is not your final destination.

Sometimes a breakthrough comes after the biggest breakdown of your life. Hang in there.

In this life we are all just walking up the mountain, and we can sing as we climb or we can complain about our sore feet. Whichever we choose, we still gotta do the hike. I decided a long time ago singing made a lot more sense.

Give yourself credit for the days you made it through when you thought you couldn’t.

If today gets difficult, remember the smell of coffee, the way sunlight bounces off a window, the sound of your favorite person’s laugh, the feeling when a song you love comes on, the color of the sky at dusk, and that we are here to take care of each other.

Let it hurt. Let it bleed. Let it heal. And let it go.

Even now, as broken as you may feel, you are still so strong. There’s something to be said for how you hold yourself together and keep moving, even though you feel like shattering. Don’t stop. This is your healing. It doesn’t have to be pretty, or graceful. You just have to keep going.

When the world feels like an emotional roller coaster, steady yourself with simple rituals. Do the dishes. Fold the laundry. Water the plants. Simplicity attracts wisdom.

People used to drive me crazy. Now I don’t get into their car.