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    Steve
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    As a bodhisattva my intention is to awaken all beings–however the person that I am closest to, my wife has no desire to follow this path.  Although frustrating at first, I have come to realize that it is not my place to try to “convert” or push a certain way of life on her.  She is a very wise woman, and she actually lives many of the precepts already, not even realizing it.  But I cherish these teachings so fully, and truly believe that my life is so much more fulfilled since I realized the dharma.  It is my hope that someday she will want to embark on this journey with me, but at this time that is not the case.  I guess my question to fellow practitioners would be, how do I introduce her to the dharma in such a way that doesn’t push her away, but rather guides her along this path in a beautiful and positive way?  I realize the generic answer would be to simply live the precepts, becoming a vehicle for her to see the possibility of awakening.  Well this has been the case for a few years now, and quite frankly I don’t think she is any closer.  I’m sure she sees a difference in my attitude and temperment, but has never shown any attempt to want to start her own journey.  Maybe it’s just not her time, and I am just getting in the way, but as I mentioned earlier I would be so thrilled if we could move through this life together as fellow seekers. Any help from folks who have been through this would be most appreciated.

     

    Namaste

    Steven

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    Roberta
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    Dear Steve

    How wonderful that you have found the Dharma.  It is natural to want to share the joys you are discovering especially with our loved ones and it can be frustrating & lonely when they don’t seem interested.

    I am the only buddhist in our family but I too look for similarities in my family & others so that I can connect with them.

    When I get a chance I go to Quakers meetings as I find  it a quiet, contemplative & friendly atmosphere.

    You should also rejoice that your wife is wise and ethical and maybe when you notice her actively putting these things into practice comment to her positively ie: you really used wise speech in that situation.

    I am guessing that she supports you when you take time out to study or practice prayers or meditation if so thank her.

    If & when you are struggling with your practice or studies try asking your wife for her input.

    Is there a dharma centre or meditation group near you who can offer you a sense of community & support?

    Wishing you both all the best

    Roberta

     

     

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