More: I did not read your whole post, only the first few lines and the last few lines. I didn’t want to read more insults. So my reply is based only on a few lines.

No dramas who.
I like to vent too. it’s healthy not to bottle up these things and I think the Internet is a good place to do it. As long as it doesn’t become personal and I don’t think your post was really.
Hang around.
But I can understand you not wanting to stay. A lot of people move on from Tiny Buddha. I think the lack of traffic is the main problem. Then a lack of regulars besides me, Anita, Inky, Saisha occasionally and a few others. It becomes claustrophobic I imagine.
But you’ll find problems on any forum on the Internet. Lots of imperfect people on imperfect forums. And some of them are moderators. No moderators here at least.

Hi who,

I don’t know if you’re still around…

This thread shows that we are all solidly in our own realities based on our perceptions. But which one is real? Any of them? All of them?

This reminds me of the time my sister and I were in a Group. A couple years into it this woman cornered my sister. It was clear that she had been holding onto this particular grievance/”reality” for a while, because she was so upset. She screwed up her courage and finally asked, “I feel like we aren’t close. Have I done anything to upset you and how can I fix it?”

My sister looked at her blankly and replied, “I’m going through a divorce.”

Meaning, the woman wasn’t such a great friend if she didn’t realize a friggin’ divorce was going on, AND that my sister didn’t think of her, um, AT ALL! The real Reality? They weren’t that close! Of course, that confrontation made things even worse!!

Anyway, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! To a season where there’s nothing to vent about!! 🙂

Inky

• This reply was modified 8 years, 11 months ago by Inky.

Dear Who,
I wanted to answer to your original post.
To me it sounds as if your ‘venting’ actually lead to bold and wonderfully selfconfident statements, culminating in “I’m going to jump off the cliff and soar!”. Awesome! You go, who! What will be your next steps?

As for your first sentences, the way I interpret it is that you are tired of people giving others advice when they seem to struggle themselfs. I agree that everyone who finds his way here is most probably struggling one way of another. But the thing is: we have all dealt with different things in life already. So someone seeking advice about e.g. a broken heart will likely find someone else here who has allready dealt with a similar situation. Some advice will be good, some bad, deciding that is up to the one asking for advice. But what is just as important, if not more, is that people can find empathy here for their problems. And for that, you don’t need the perfect advisor, just someone who is willing to listen. I can totally understand if this forum is not the right place for you right now, but I hope you will visit again whenever you like.