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  • July 29, 2018 at 10:25 pm #219315
    Prash
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    Dear Mouli,

    You are hurting and reliving the pain from last one and a half years. It is difficult to move on from a nice and sorted 3 year relationship particularly if the feelings about it are left unresolved.

    You need to allow yourself to go through the situation being full aware of what is happening with your feelings. Healing can take place only through this. Suppressed feelings have the habit of surfacing at the most inopportune moments.

    A relationship is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what your expectations are. Maybe that is for later. At this point in time do things that promote your healing – be near loved ones and be in situations that you are comfortable with.

    Reminding yourself of the “shitty breakup” will give you the reasons of what was not right about the relationship and why you need to move on. But for now primarily be kind to yourself.

    Take care

    July 29, 2018 at 11:04 pm #219319
    Prash
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    *Re-posted

    Dear Mouli,

    You are hurting and reliving the pain from last one and a half years. It is difficult to move on from a nice and sorted 3 year relationship particularly if the feelings about it are left unresolved.

    You need to allow yourself to go through the situation being full aware of what is happening with your feelings. Healing can take place only through this. Suppressed feelings have the habit of surfacing at the most inopportune moments.

    A relationship is an opportunity to learn more about yourself and what your expectations are. Maybe that is for later. At this point in time do things that promote your healing – be near loved ones and be in situations that you are comfortable with.

    Reminding yourself of the “shitty breakup” will give you the reasons of what was not right about the relationship and why you need to move on. But for now primarily be kind to yourself.

    Take care

    July 30, 2018 at 6:59 am #219399
    Mouli
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    Hi Prash,

    Thanks for you kind words. But didn’t quite get what you meant by, “You need to allow yourself to go through the situation being full aware of what is happening with your feelings. Healing can take place only through this.”

    Will you please do elaborate?

    Thanks.

    July 30, 2018 at 8:02 am #219407
    Prash
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    Dear Mouli,

    Following the loss of a cherished relationship, a person generally goes through the 5 stages of loss. Denial & Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

    From your post, it looks to me that you had repressed some of these phases since you mentioned about being ruined emotionally despite changing places and apparently moving on. How long each of these phases last is totally unpredictable. Through being aware of what is going on in your mind, you need to go through these and take it to a place of acceptance where healing will be possible.

    Hope I have offered some clarification. Look forward to read from you again.

    Take good care of yourself

     

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