So I feel that I have a very unique, special friendship with someone that seems to confuse people and make them uncomfortable; I’m wondering if anyone has the same experience.
My best friend and I are incredibly close. To start–I’m a lesbian. He is straight. I am not attracted to him sexually (or romantically in the traditional sense). However, I consider him to be my soulmate in the purest, most innocent sense of the word. He feels the same about me. We talk about everything, connect on every level, and I feel that he is the only one who truly understands, you know, actually hears me when we speak. That’s a very rare and special thing. But I feel like people don’t get it, primarily because it is a male-female friendship. If we were both women, for instance, I think that people would think it was a sweet and normal relationship, but when I try to explain it to even our other friends, I can tell that they are judging us, or don’t truly believe that we are totally platonic. It’s hurtful, and a real shame that I can’t share this great connection with other people. We were talking about this the other night–how we want to move away together, travel the world, just experience life together–and how sad it is that people are going to ridicule us for it, that they’ll never understand. I know that from that description, our relationship certainly sounds romantic, but I believe that things are not so black and white. Relationships of every kind are complex and beautiful, and the feelings and relationships I have had with women are entirely different from how I feel about my best friend. With women, I experience “normal” romantic feelings, what you would expect, you know. But with him, it’s like he is me. He’s a part of who I am. He’s… my person. But I am not in lovewith him. I love him like he is an extension of myself. Almost like family, but it’s much deeper than that.

I know that our friendship will possibly cause a lot of complications in our future. But I don’t really care! I am certain other people have experienced this, so I just wanted to see how many people can relate–in a less judgmental environment. Thanks for reading.