Trouble being authentic and happy

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December 26, 2017 at 9:36 am #183717

Anonymous
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Dear felix:

The problem I see at this point, having read your post, is that you think it is possible to always be happy, that a “spiritual awakening” of any kind can result in an ongoing state of happiness. I don’t believe such a state is possible. The expectation of something that is unrealistic to expect, and comparing the way things are to that unrealistic expectation is causing you distress, I believe.

You wrote that four years ago, you had a “spiritual awakening” and that for a long time you felt “calm and peaceful… happy everyday… in the flow state constantly”- it is wonderful that you experienced these things for so long but such an experience cannot last and last.

It is not that you “did a spiritual bypass of some sort”- no spiritual awakening can result in an undisturbed, constant calm, peace and happiness.

You wrote that your friend “is joyful almost always”- well, almost, that is more realistic. But this is the friend who was in a mental hospital, which means he suffered a lot. His current (?) use of psychedelic drugs will not work for him either, and his “almost always” state of joy will end soon enough, if it is still ongoing at this time.

Let me know what you think and we can communicate further, if you’d like.

anita

December 26, 2017 at 1:00 pm #183745

Eliana
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Hi Felix,

I read your post and it saddened me. First because I love majic and Illusion. It makes me happy. I love to watch David Blaine and David Copperfield. They are amazing. I don’t think there is anything fradulent about it. I think it is a true gift, and it makes people happy. Many people enjoy this and most of these shows sell out. Please don’t think of yourself in these terms. If this is something you enjoyed why stop? Just some thoughts. I hope you will keep posting.

December 27, 2017 at 3:39 pm #183967

crawford
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Thank you for the answer on both of my posts, this answer helped me alot. I am still very unsure how i should procceed and where to start

I will reply more in the other post i made

January 4, 2018 at 5:50 pm #185107

Eliana
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Hi Felix,

I was just checking in on you, to see how you are doing, and if you are feeling better. I hope you have a Happy New Year.

January 5, 2018 at 9:24 am #185211

crawford
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Hi Eliana, i am happy to see that you ask how i am doing.

I probobly going to write a followup ”question” on the forum but im feeling better right now but still feel like i am caught up in two different worlds. I have a hard time gathering enough energy for me to do my purpose which is art. I feel like i am still trapped in pleasing my friends even though i have put some boundaries it still feels like i have too many friends and that if i don’t keep up the good standards they start feeling like they are being betrayed or looked over.

But as said, im going to write a totally new question in the forum in the near future

January 5, 2018 at 10:27 am #185225
Eliana
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Hi Crawford,

I see that you wrote a question on another thread, and hope you get some great advice. Lots of awesome, helpful people on here. I really do hope you follow your passion of art. Remember that you are living your life for you, and not your friends. They are busy doing their own thing, and need to respect what you want to do. If they can’t respect your boundaries, maybe separate yourself for awhile, put some distance so you Can do you own thing. I do hope you will pursue your art. Keep posting and follow your dreams.
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January 25, 2018 at 12:28 pm #189009

Mark
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Crawford,

I think it is pretty common for those of us who want to be in integrity with themselves and feeling that the outside world does not support that/you. You want to focus on your art and yet you are feeling that having the friends you have keeps you from doing that?

It is an awareness of what is important to you in your life and act accordingly. I believe that like anything, it’s a practice.

I think a good measure of what is good for you is to be mindful what feeds your spirit and whatever it is that gives you energy rather than suck your energy.

Mark
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