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  • January 24, 2018 at 11:29 am #188717
    Buddi
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    Ash – I am not going to beat around the bush …you should have left yesterday. I think its nice you stuck around and hoped he would get responsible you gave him a chance.

    You can end it with grace and move on.

    January 24, 2018 at 11:49 am #188731
    Mark
    Participant

    Ash,

    I don’t know what kind of insight you are looking for.

    Look at yourself on what you are doing and why.

    You wrote he is irresponsible and not working on being self sufficient.

    Why are you continuing to enable him down this path?  Why do you want to stay in his life?

    I would invite you to read what you wrote here as if a friend wrote this post and what would you tell her?

    January 24, 2018 at 12:24 pm #188739
    Ash
    Participant

    Thanks for the responses!

    I think I’ve done my fair share and it’s best that I move on. I have too much going for myself to allow myself to get stuck in a situation like this especially when it’s repeated itself. He’s shown me that being responsible is not a priority of his and I can’t make him see it.

    Mark, I read over what I wrote and if it was my friend I would tell her to let it go and move on.

    Thank you!

    January 24, 2018 at 12:26 pm #188743
    Ash
    Participant

    Sometimes it’s hard to face what you already know.

    January 24, 2018 at 12:34 pm #188745
    Mark
    Participant

    Ash,

    I wish you well on your “new” life.

    Mark

    January 25, 2018 at 3:46 am #188839
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Ash:

    I want to add a voice encouraging you to end this relationship, simply because the motivations you expressed are wise financial investment and  use of  money as  well as buying a home and having  a family in the  future.

    You did not express a motivation to finance a boyfriend.

    anita

    January 27, 2018 at 8:36 pm #189355
    Ash
    Participant

    Thank you!

    I will say it’s been tough. I had to hear a lot of what I didn’t do. I know what I did and my intentions were pure. I knew deep in my heart it was best to end it.  He clearly didn’t see any of his wrongdoings. He got upset because I explained to him that he didn’t have to get himself fired.

     

    He has has a lot of growing up to do. Pushing the age of 34 with 2 children and no stability doesn’t sound promising. I will continue to take care of myself and keep striving for greatness.

     

    Thanks for all responses!

    January 28, 2018 at 5:17 am #189387
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Ash:

    You are welcome. I hope you continue to do what is right for you regardless of anyone’s disapproval.

    I do hope he gets his life together for his sake, and most importantly for the sake of his two children. I hope he does get better, but not in context of a relationship with you.

    anita

    January 28, 2018 at 10:23 am #189479
    Eliana
    Participant

    Hi Ash,

    I always think everyone deserves a second chance, but in this case, I do not think you will find the stability you are looking for with him.

    April 27, 2018 at 8:56 pm #204617
    Ash
    Participant

    Hey everyone,

    Just an update….I closed on my home and will be moving in soon. I’m so excited to have purchased my first home. I ended the relationship and it was the best thing I couldve ever done. I feel so much better now. I knew that relationship wasn’t for me and I was a little nervous to end it. I’m so happy I did. I did not want to bring that negativity into my new space. I’m enjoying life.

    I’m also considering persuing my Doctorate. Life is great!!!

    April 28, 2018 at 6:49 am #204637
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Ash:

    Welcome back to your thread three months after the last post. I appreciate your update. What a lovely update, glad you made the right choices for you and that life is great now.

    Best wishes to you, post anytime you’d like, it will be good to read from you.

    anita

    April 28, 2018 at 8:22 am #204639
    Eliana
    Participant

    Hi Ash,

    This is great news! So good to hear from you again. x

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