Don’t be too hard on yourself, we all do the same mistakes(let me say I). Just occupy yourself with the things that you love (easy said than done) not a job. You are now giving that ungrateful….don’t wanna use harsh words, let me call him Mr troubled and confused . ….okay don’t give Mr troubled and confused power over you…..let him go…release him and move on. Yes you made a crap move – pity the woman that will be with him. you don’t deserve such.

tThe way we put ourselves under pressure and sometimes even allow our relatives and friends put extra pressure…..two days back my Aunt called just to ask me why I am not married at 37, geez what am i supposed to do…marry a frog?….I felt like I was in a big stadium with lots of people applauding it was as if I was a Matador dressed in sparking Spanish costume carrying a red cloth in front of a black bull. I could visualise her mouth – it was like the eyes of a fighting bull staring right at me and blowing its nose and words ready to attack at any time. .and boy she did- the words went straight for the heart and paralysed me instantly.

In time you and I will find our soul mates who will appreciate us and love us the way we deserve to be loved. Just be open and not rush to anything. Eat cocolate and go and work it out in the gym…..

I know it’s difficult being a woman…. But don’t be so harsh on yourself..!! I mean u are an independent woman who can earn for herself and take care of herself very well.So just go and enjoy the freedom u have in your hands…!! Hangout with your friends, go for a movie, go for shopping and just be happy for no reason!!!

xxx

Here’s a hug for you ( ) 🙂

Sue x

Have you stopped and looked at your on going pattern with men? Do you truly understand how men think? Sorry, but I am going to disagree respectfully with other, that you have no responsibility for the failure of these relationships. These maybe relationships you should have never entered into in the first place. Two people always enter into the relationship and set up the dynamics that will play out. There is a life lesson here for you and the pattern will repeat until it is learned. Start by taking care of you first, because you are the most important person there is right now. How can you build a relationship when you do not have a solid foundation and are not secure with you. Poor upbringings we all have our baggage in this department, but what you need to learn is how to move forward and not let it define you. Barbara De Angelis Ph.D has two excellent books that saved me years ago. The first is “How To Make Love All The Time”, which has excellent exercises in it to help you workout any past resentments and hurts you may have. In the other book “Are You The One For Me”, this helps identify those unhealthy patterns with men and breaks the cycle. My first marriage was eight years of bad news, which was why I was single after that for twelve years. During that time I had many unsuccessful relationships, but one day I knew that I wanted someone in my life. After reading these two books, doing the exercises in them, within less than a year my husband of twenty years came along. He was out of my typical type toxic pattern with men, because I broke that pattern that I previously had going on in my life. Don’t despair and work on healing you and being happy and secure with yourself. Include in your day 30 minutes focused on improving you, whether that is exercise, self-help reading, writing in a journal etc., this will help too. Good luck.