The Thinker,

The option to wait isn’t allowed because you’re ready? What about her thoughts, feelings and opinions? It may be a language thing. 🙂 If she’s fearful, consider setting aside your strong opinions on what matters and listen to her side of things. It will be good practice for the caring attention that you’ll need to be a dad.

Have you considered couple’s counselling? The question “should I have a baby or leave my wife?” says to me that there are perhaps some issues you would do well to look at more closely before trying to answer that.

With warmth,
Matt

Please think of the good of your future child or children- will they have a good mother and a good father? Is your wife the right mother for your future child? Will she treat your future child well so to produce a healthy new person? What are your plans as to the kind of father you will be for your child? Will you and your wife work together well for the benefit of your future child?

As future parent you have a great responsibility for taking care of a dependent child, an innocent, weak child who will NEED you greatly, who will look up to you for protection, for safety (physical and emotional) and for guidance. It is your responsibility to CHOOSE the right woman for the job of mothering your future child as it is your responsibility to be and become a good father. Please be very thoughtful and make good decisions NOW for the child you are considering having.

anita