Also, I pointed out that we’d been best friends for four years because that is the longest friendship I’ve ever had.

Dear Anita,

I don’t remember the first time. It has happened so many times. I do remember one time in the fifth grade, my whole class had a text group chat. I wasn’t on it because I had not had a phone. One of my closer friends at the time asked if they could add me, and people in my class said that they didn’t want to add me because I’d talk too much on TEXT! They also said they should create a group chat with me on it that they never used. I felt so upset. I cried multiple times because of that.

Dear Anita,

I do think your idea is smart, but not what happens in this situation. I’ve always talked a lot and I’ve always had a loud voice. But I’ve also always been shunned for it which make friendships hard.

Dear Bianca:

I wish I was able to hear you through the computer screen, how you sound when you talk a lot, with a loud voice. You wrote: “I’ve always talked a lot and I’ve always had a loud voice“- is it that (1) every single time that you talk, you also talk fast and loud, or (2) at times, when you feel particularly anxious/ uncomfortable,  you talk fast and loud?

anita

Dear Bianca:

I want to be back to your thread and reply further in about 13 hours. (Feel free to add anything if you have anything to add that may be relevant and help me understand better).

anita

Dear Bianca:

You wrote: “Even though everyone else could be talking, I was always the one shushed or told I’m being too loud… I’ve always had a loud voice. But I’ve also always been shunned for it which make friendships hard… I still always talk loud… I’ve always been loud and talkative, not because of anxiety, but because I can’t control it“-

– There is such a thing as Voice Disorders, one of which, according to the professional looking website laryngopedia. com (larynx aka the voice box is located at the top of the neck) is a Disorder of Vocal Loudness Perception which is a “lack of awareness or perception of one’s personal vocal “volume level’ to the point that it is creating difficulty in one’s life’. If asked to place oneself on a personal loudness scale from 1 to 7, most individuals can do so with reasonable accurateness. Occasionally, however, an individual (with normal hearing ability) lacks this kind of self-insight, and such an individual could be said to have a disorder of vocal loudness perception”.

In this website and other website different possible causes and treatments are listed. You may want to see a medical doctor specialist in Voice Disorders.

You wrote: “People say I talk to much… I’ve always talked a lot.. I’ve always been loud and talkative, not because of anxiety, but because I can’t control it“-

– instah. com/ children – health/ excessive-talking-disorder reads: “Excessive talking is never accepted socially. Our social norms dictate that we should be polite and attentive to others, spoke only when spoken to and are brief and concise when we are putting forth a point. However, while these are the societal norms, some people are not able to follow these inadvertently.

“There is a common behavioral disorder named Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). This a common disorder… almost 8-10% of children in their school going age are affected by this disorder… They talk excessively and often meaninglessly outside of social norms. If someone is asking them a question, they are likely to start blurting out answer even before listening to the question completely”.

Was it ever suggested to you that you may suffer from ADHD, and did you see a doctor for that?

anita

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Dear Bianca:

Maye you should see a laryngologist (a surgeon with a special interest in voice, airway, and swallowing disorders involving the voice box and the throat) by asking your regular doctor to arrange for an appointment for you, an appointment with a laryngologist.

You can also ask your regular doctor to see a specialist regarding possibly suffering from ADHD (?)

anita

Dear Bianca:

If you were obsessed about whether you have a brain tumor, you could go to a doctor, get tests and exams done, and if they come up negative,  you get your answer.  But there is no medical test or exam to determine sexual orientation: you can see all the medical doctors in the world: no responsible medical doctor will give you an answer.

So, you can see, don’t you, that no person online can responsibly tell you that you are gay or straight. I can’t. Even if I told you: Bianca, you are straight for sure! Maybe you will feel better for a moment, but shortly after, you will question my answer and be back to obsessing.

“Every time I’m with someone I love and care about my mind says your gay and you should tell them”- who are those people (those someone-s)  you referred to here, these people who you are with, those you love?

anita